Thank you so much for your response. Just knowing that I am not the only one going through this is so helpful. There have been so many times over the past few months when I really thought I was going crazy. I was irritable and have had almost no patience. This is really bad when you are a mother of three young children and a teacher. It sometimes took everything I had just to get out of bed in the morning. I think the doctors just thought it was depression and response to high levels of stress. While that could be part of it, knowing that my continually low hemaglobin levels have something to do with my mood and emotions makes me feel so much better. I know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel and my children might someday soon have their mother back. Thank you. I am scared at the prospect of such invasive surgery but finally having a plan for recovery makes it so much more bearable.
Good luck with your mother. I can definitely sympathize with her pain. She is lucky to have you.
God bless you. I can imagine just a bit of what you're going through as my mother is facing similar problems. In her case, she has multiple AVMs (arterio-venous malformations) throughout her stomach and small intestines. She's been bleeding slowly for years as these vessels give up and explode, but since March it's been ridiculous. She has to be transfused with 2 to 3 units every couple of weeks - sometimes more often, sometimes a bit less.
I so wish I had some words of wisdom for you, but your story is helping me better deal with my mom's condition. Somehow, someway, something can be done to help. At least we all know how to recognize the symptoms when her hemoglobin gets dangerously low. She actually goes crazy. All logic is gone and she gets flat-out mean. Her all-time worst hemoglobin was 5.2. What a disaster. Mom lashes out at everyone: family, doctors, nurses, orderlies, volunteers, janitors... anyone at hand.
On the surgical side, I can say that no surgery is exactly fun. I've had too many to count over the years both abdominal and orthopedic. Where the abdominal surgeries were concerned, I can say the best thing you can do afterward is to take it very easy on food. Go very slowly from liquids to solids and consistently monitor your body's reaction. Stock up on yogurt smoothies from the grocery store or make your own for the first week. When the stomach and/ or intestines are surgically treated, it can take some time for normal peristalsis to resume. Better to go slow than end up back in the hospital for pain management because your guts aren't ready to function yet.
Best of luck to you, and I'm hoping someone who has a similar issue will see your post. You just can't be alone in this! :-)