4 year old

Question

I have been a single mom for 3 1/2 years and ive noticed that my daughter behavoir is getting worse as she gets older. she was born early by a month and a half and she is fearless to anything and everything. 
time outs dont work... re-words dont work.... taking things away doesnt work either. (you ask her what she wants 4 xmas she says coil) :( 
her dad comes and goes in her life and we just moved 3 months ago. so she has a new school and friends. and i would like to think thats wher problem lies  but it cant be. this has been going on since she turned 4 back in April. Ive had no problems with her until the age of 4. 
Will she grow out of it? Is it something more that i need to worry about.. am i doing something wrong??????
She says she miss's her dad but i cant him be apart of her life if he doesnt want to.. 
Im lost...

gymdandee · Answer

Listen to what I'm telling you! When you put her in time out make it for at least 10 minutes if she sits that's good if not then you put her back and you tell her time starts all over again. you have to be consistent and no screaming!!
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amf426 · Answer

i dont consider her behind. she is very smart and i think that is part of the problem. she is 4 but her mind is like shes 16. but on the same hand she can act like a 2 year old. when she talks you wouldnt guess shes 4 but part of that might be because ive never treated her like a baby nor talked to her like a baby.

jki · Answer

My little brother was born at 5 and a half months so he was very premature. He acts out a lot. He doesnt listen or anything. He is a handful. He is 5 already. What we as a family consider it as like since he was born early he is behind from others so hasnt matured enough or completely. You have to be straight foward with your child and as missyp37 says dnt let hr walk over you. You are in charge and she must be aware of it.

missyp37 · Answer

I was 4 when my dad walked out on me,my mom, and sisters. I never got to see him. I missed him and it was really tough on my family. He left us with no money, car, or anything. We made do still. Don't let your daughter walk over you by using the "i miss my dad" card. Hang in there and hopefully it will get better. Maybe she should talk to a counselor. Sometimes it's easier for kids to talk to grown ups that they are NOT related too.