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Any experience with death from liver/ kidney failure?

This year will mark 30 years my mothers been gone, i was only 9. While she was very sick the year preceding her death, i just couldnt understand how this could happen to a 36 year old. The trauma of her death was deep and still effects me almost as much today as it did in 1987. My father was never really a part of my life so i lived with my grandmother after that, although she died 3 years later after becoming a severe alcoholic. Between ages 9-12 i lost my mother, grandmother, went into foster care where i subsequently endured sexual abuse. Now here i am and i cant seem to stay sober myself. I need to resolve this before it kills me. My mother had hep c, chronic alcoholism and cirrhosis. She was in the hospital 10 days before moving to ICU. 3 weeks later she passed. I know the last 2 days of her life the dr knew she wasnt going to make it. I want to know what death is like for a patient such as this. I dont understand how someone so young goes down so quickly despite medical intervention. I do know the actual cause of death was acute kidney failure, a byproduct of the liver failure. Also she lost her voice before being put on a respirator, but i cant find information on why this happens. Any help would be deeply appreciated.
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I am so sorry. I can't imagine what you've been through. My Mom passed 2 months ago from cirrhosis. We watched her decline very fast. The liver is a filter; when that goes, the entire body shuts down despite any medical intervention.  Times have changed since the 80s, but it hasn't been perfected.  

Medically, my Mother's main portal vein was damaged because the liver had scarring. Nobby in texture, if you will. The spleen trapped platelets, and she developed varicose veins in her esophagus.  She was a bleed risk. Cirhossis is a painful, torturous death. I'm determined to take better care of myself so I don't experience that.

Regarding your sobriety, I encourage you to think about what your Mom would want for you.  I'm sure she would want you to live a long, healthy and happy life.  Take charge of your life. Make it a good one. Also, what has been a big part of my life is God. Without Jesus, I am nothing.  

Your life doesn't have to be the way it has been. You have the opportunity to break that generational curse.  I'm always here if you want to talk, or pray.  As I lift you in prayer, know you are loved, appreciated and Jesus loves you.
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Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart.  Your words brought both comfort and perspective.  I pray for you as well.  Losing a mother is hard at any age.  I will always remember your kindness.
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