Can't Cope

[Jram]

My boyfriend's uncle has cancer and is currently residing in a hospice because the hospital can no longer treat him (the treatments aren't working).  This is very stressful and sad for my boyfriend, his family, and me because I can't help him, but I want to do everything I can to help him though it.  Does anyone have any suggestions as to what methods I can use to help him through it?  

Thank you.

[girldirtbiker]

No WORDS help, in fact sometimes - they hurt.
Mu sugestion is just being. Being there with him, holding his hand - hug him. Just let him know you are there for him. Let him talk when he needs too and cry when he needs too.
I watched my sister die in two short days, I leoft her once to shower and rushed back. I was there when she went to fly with the angels.
I dont know what your beliefs are, but some wont "leave us" until we say goodbye - literally. If they are in pain tell them it is Okay to go that you will be fine (even if your not) so they can pass without enduring days, weeks and months of pain. It is hard to see them in pain and harder to see them go.

Just be there for him - he will let you know what he needs or doesnt need. Let him be, dont push - each of us grieves in our own way.
My prayers are with you both.
~peace and grace.
tam

[ConcernedFiencee]

My fiencee and i just had his dad die of cancer and it was very hard for both of us, i loved his dad like my own and thought of him like that. he died on june 19th 2 days after fathers day and one day after fiencees bday. All i can really say is be strong for him. Talk about it with him, it can make things better. we talk about his dad all of the time and we still miss him but he is in heaven and not suffering anymore so as long as we think of it that way it makes us happier.Good Luck
Keisha

[LLWB]

This is a very stressful situation. Just letting your boyfriend talk about his feelings, and his love for his Uncle will help him.Once cancer has reached this stage, it is difficult for everyone to deal with the impending death. We as a society are not taught how to deal with death and dying. Is he religious? Talking with a pastor or conselor can be of great benifit. Hospice also has wonderful help for family & friends. Good luck and God Bless.