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On what would have been my son's 28th Birthday


Today would have been my son Scott's 28th birthday, he died 2 years ago next month and I still miss him terribly...I've accepted it more but today all the emotions have returned...he always thought he had no friends but I'm seeing an outpouring of love for him on Facebook and I remember his funeral being so crowded that there were people who had to stand outside and in the kitchen of the church for the service...

May you rest in God's loving arms, Scott...we miss you and love you and there will always be a hole in my heart where you belong..

Love, Dad
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I'm with you Jim, there aren't enough words.
I can honestly feel your pain and there's nothing like it
in this world.  

Next month Nick would be 29..and with the holidays arriving
as he loved somuch I feel as though I'm going through the motions
but not really here.  
I know you feel the same.

Please know we love our sons....a love that is forever in our hearts and our whole being.
This pain we feel will never go away for a part of us is gone.

Many hugs
Elaine
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I dedicate this poem to your son on his special day:

“If roses grow in heaven,
Lord please pick a bunch for me.
Place them in my son Scott’s arms and tell him they're from me.
Tell him that I love and miss him and when he turns to smile,
place a kiss upon his cheek and hold him for awhile,  because remembering him is easy,
I do it every day, there's an ache within my heart that will never go away.”

Rest in Gods eternal glory, till you meet again. :)
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Hi Jim, and "Happy, heavenly, blessed birthday" to your wonderful son Scott, who is watching over you!!! Scott is in peace and want your heart and soul to be in peace also. Scott is the future, because one day in God's time, you will see him again, so rejoice!!!

I promise that it will get better with time and although we will always carry a heavy heart, we will be able to move forward with our lives. I'm doing so much better, but not one day passes that I don't think of mom. I visit her grave at least 4-5'x a wk....it's only 15 min away. Hugs.
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176495 tn?1301280412
Thank you all for the kind thoughts and comments yesterday...they were quite comforting and I know I feel much better today..

Thank you again and may God bless you all


Jim
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Beargizmo....Thank you for the kind words. I think it's important for you to keep his ashes as long as you need to.  Once you scatter them, it will feel so final. A time will come when it will feel right, be patient with yourself.  Take care.


To sara: Thank you, sometimes I wonder myself.
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495284 tn?1333894042
You will know when the time is right Jim~~~~

Mammo, i am so sorry about your loss also.  I dont know how you all do it.     sara
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176495 tn?1301280412
Thank you all...Mammo, my thoughts and prayers are with you..what a terrible loss..I still have my son's ashes (or a portion thereof) and was going to scatter them on my last visit to Georgia (his home) in a couple of his favorite places but I can't bring myself to part with them.

Jim
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495284 tn?1333894042
Jim, you are in my thoughts today.  May you find comfort in his memories and know that he is watching over you smiling and thanking you for being a wonderful loving dad~~~sara
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My thoughts and prayers are with you.  I lost my son Scott, 11 years ago.  I know your pain and heartache.  We lost his son 1 year ago, and their ashes sit side by side in my daughter-in-laws living room.  There is is no greater loss than that of our child or grandchild.  Hugs to you, as you remember your Scott.
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176495 tn?1301280412

Thank you M...very nice of you...


Jim
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599071 tn?1300068702
Thinking of you & hoping you continue to find some  joy in your memories of Scott.

Hugs,

M
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