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Should I ever tell my children

Should I ever tell my small children that their father committed suicide?
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681888 tn?1272922309
can i just say im so sorry for you loss ,

im a mom of two children that took their own lives )....as you can see Ive wrote ( took their own lives ) not committed suicide the reason Ive put it in that way is they have done away with the word committed ),,,,,to commit is to commit a murder it is a cruel way of putting a suicide im not saying this to you in a bad way but people that have suicide in there family's still dont know this word have been done away with ,.

when my son died i had a 5 year old son we told him his brother was very sick and he was in a lot of pain inside of his head and he was very very sad ,we also told him his brother loved him very much,..

when he was 8 years old when his sister died we told him she to was very sad since her brother died and couldnt take the pain of it anymore but she also loved you very much ,...he is 13 now and he grew up thinking but if they loved me so much why did they do it i had to keep on reminding him of there pain but!!! i also told him its not the way to deal with pain inside of your head and as hes growing he knows he can tell me anything that is on his mind ,... my son has been going for help also these last few years hes at the age now where i worry about him and i will continue to worry about him because its in my family now ,what ever you say to your kids is up to you dont underestimate kids they take in everything as long as you finish with telling them its not the way to go dont worry how young they are just as long as you tell them according to there age ,.....thy may need help as they get older just to talk about it dont be worrying to much about this to much and i do hope things work out for you with them ,
my prayers are with you and your children
Bernie ,......
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1225487 tn?1370363445
i am not sure how young your children are but my brother committed suicide last year. i told my kids the truth. at the time they were 9, 4, 2. my 9 year understood totally and the two youngers ones still ask questions when we talk about him but i felt i needed to be open with them. i didnt want people telling them one thing and someone else telling them something else.
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At some point they deserve to know, but not until they are very capable of understanding that their father was ill, and that it's never the right thing to do.  For now "daddy is in heaven and watching over you is sufficient."  Saying too much at a young age may confuse them or send the wrong message.  My prayers are with you and your children, and I wish you all the best.  Take care.
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1152782 tn?1451101426
yes.  I think so.  Just tell them what they can understand at their age.  Daddy went to heaven to be with granny....(whoever they know that also passed away)  And when they're older and asking how daddy died tell them he decided he wanted to be with granny....then maybe when they're teenagers or young adults asking tell them he committed suicide, then he committed suicide doing xyz.....But I would only say something when they ask questions.  If they are satisfied with whatever you told them then leave it at that.  But just make sure your answer is age appropriate.  They will probably ask questions on and off until they get all the answers they need to move on.
I'm so sorry you are having to go through this!  You're in my prayers.
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