I'm pleased I could help. EWH
Thank you. Feel much more comfortable now!
Welcome to the Forum. As providers who take care of persons with and at risk for HV we are very grateful for the availability of PEP. At the same time, because of its high cost, relatively frequent side events (mostly GI), and fear that it will induce further resistance to the drugs used, we try to use it judiciously. From what you describe, I probably would not have recommended PEP for your partner and certainly see no reason for you to seek PEP. In addition to the issues mentioned above, the reasons for this include:
1. Your partner was not exposed to a person known to have HIV. Even in high risk settings such as venues where anonymous sex between men who have sex with other men is practiced, the majority of persons do not have HIV.
2. Even if your partner had been infected (and therefore PEP were warranted), his penetration was apparently brief and partial and even with full penetration, the risk for infection is less than 1 in 100 (1%). thus even without PEP the odds were in his favor.
3. He took PEP, thereby greatly reducing his risk for HIV.
4. You were exposed to someone who may have been exposed and who took PEP. This is just too distant a connection for you to be at any meaningful risk for infection. I would not worry.
I hope this comment provides useful perspective for you. I would not worry. EWH