Given that, in general, HIV is more common in sub-Saharan Africa than elsewhere, I can understand your anxiety but I can assure you that you really have little to be concerned about. Let's take your exposure apart, piece by piece:
1. For starters, you do not know that your partner had HIV. Even in parts of the world where HIV is more common, most people do not have HIV.
2. If she was infected, HIV is not transmitted by kissing, even with chapped lips..
3. Condom protected vaginal sex is safe sex,. IF she was infected, your risk form a single condom protected exposure is less than 1 in 100,000 and perhaps lower.
4. Masturbation is also safe sex. There is no HIV transmission with masturbation.
5. That you had her vaginal fluid on your hands when you put the condom on is no risk, nor is licking your hands
Bottom line. this was a no risk exposure. I would not even recommend testing for this. EWH
No, STDs are not transmitted by masturbation or kissing. EWH
thanks doc. is there any other risk of std other than hiv and should i get tested. it feels like when i'm done urinating not everything comes out and is left in there.