Re: poppers, I think the main reasons use increases risk of contracting HIV are 1. use reduces inhibitions, and 2. people who use poppers are generally more likely to engage in riskier activities.
Congratulations on your commitment to safe sex. That is good both for you and your partners. Now you just need to work on the details.
Your partner was probably not infected. Most people tell the truth and his offers to show you his test results make it even more likely that he was telling the truth and thus not infected.
Poppers do not clearly and directly increase risk for getting HIV.
It is normal for a certain amount of genital secretions to be spread between partners even during protected sex. Thus most persons probably have some degree of exposure even when condom protected. Your exposure was a bit more than others but still low risk and not a concern.
Hope this is helpful. EWH
thank you very much for your response. i was worried that his ejaculatory secretion could have permeated the lining more easily due to the anal sex and poppers. That in itself is just an uncomfortable thought.
im assuming hes being honest , but you never, ever know.
Thank you again , and I appreciate you understanding my concern.