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Worried soul!

Hello Doc

41 days ago I had a sexual encounter with a american woman, shes 36yrs old, married, has children. We had vaginal intercourse, and the condom broke. I do not know when it did but I noticed after I pulled out. At the time I was not worried and she was not as well. I think she thought more about pregnancy. Since then I met her again about 2.5 weeks ago. she performed oral on me and I ejaculated in her mouth  and that is it with that time.

2 weeks ago I started to get paranoid. She told me she had been addicted to smoking meth, and takes exstacy when she feel like it. Then it hit me, what if she has HIV, since I always think the worst. I started reading about it and all the symptoms. I read that fever is one of the most common symptoms  but I have not had that. And I read that you get sore throat, I have not had it but I have been so worried that I feel for it if you know what I mean, I start swalloving a lot and try to see if it hurts. So maybe I am psychologically ill because of that,I do not know.
By the way this is in USA.

I am scared of all this, I do not want to test myself cause the thought of it is frightening.
What is the possibility that I got this and i am not even sure she has it.  PARANOID!

Thank you!
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300980 tn?1194929400
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It happens but will not happen you you.  The situation you describe is very, very rare and only occurs in persons with risky exposures, something you did not have.  You do not have HIV and did not get it from the exposure you describe.  Repeated testing is a waste of your time and money, time and money that you should be spending dealing with your anxiety.

Further questions will be deleted without comment.  EWH
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Hopefully you answer me one last time.

Yes I know I should get help since I am still worried about this. Have you ever come across someone who tested negative at 8.5 weeks (vaginal intercourse), and 4 weeks(*******), and then tested positive at a later stage.

This is what I am still concerned about, that the time period was to short to be able to get a accurate test.

Oh well, thank you if you answer!
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300980 tn?1194929400
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You need to get a grip on yourself. If you cannot do it by yourself, I urge to get get profesional help.  It does you do good to suffer needlessly and to remain fixated on HIV when there is good evidence you don't have it is needless.

Yes the results of the rapid, 30 minute tests are just as reliable as the ones which need to be sent to the lab and take longer to come back.  Believe your test result.  EWH
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why is it that I am still extremely stressed about this. Even though the test was negative I still think i have hiv. I cant calm down! I have felt sick for 3 weeks now and have had a heavy headache for 3 days straight. I know I am not suppose to read on the internet about all the symptoms but what can I do?

When I was at the clinic for testing they told me I would get the result in 1 week. But then she noticed she had another test available that would give me the answer in about 30 minutes, with the same accuracy. Is this true? Do you know about this 30 min test?

I am mentally dying

Thanks!
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300980 tn?1194929400
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The doctor is being overly conservative. In your situation, following a single low risk exposure 9 weeks ago (your oral expsoure is even lower risk), 99% of persons who have acquired HIV will have a positve test.  When you combine that with the fact that your partner was unlikely to have HIV and that you had a single exposure, your risk of HIV is now less than 1 in a million.  You are not going to be the one.  Time for you to move on.  EWH
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doctor told me that for some people it requires 6 months to notice a hiv infection.
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ok, i got tested, its been about 9 weeks since vaginal intercourse and 4 weeks since recieving oral.  my test came back negative, can i rely on that??
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300980 tn?1194929400
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I'll provide you with the short version of my advice first then tell you why I say what I say.  My advice is not to worry because your risk is low and to go and get tested so that you can put your concerns about this encounter behind you.  Now for the explanation.

First, your risk of infection is low.  Most meth users do not have HIV.  Second, even if by some unusual circumstance she turned out to be infected, your risk of infection from having sex  is very low.  Only 1 in 1000 episodes of vaginal intercourse with infected sex partners result in infection, at most.  The risk for oral sex is much, much lower than that.

Regarding your symptoms--ignore them.  If you read other question and answer exchanges on this site you will find that we have never suggested that symptoms are at all helpful in evaluating one's risk for HIV.  Symptoms such as your sore throat are non specific. You have a sore throat- sorry to hear it but it is not HIV.

Finally, get tested!!.  The reason I say this is two-fold. First, your risk is very low so you can look forward to the reassurance provided by your negative result.  Secondly, there is just no reason not to get tested.  Nearly all results for people in your situation will be negative. In the unusual situation that you have HIV, taking the test will not change that but it would allow you to seek life saving therapy and to protect those you care for from infection.  It is silly to be afraid of the test result and sticking your head in the sand will not help.  EWH
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