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Hiv positive and unprotected sex with my partners

i was diagnosed with HIV 4 years ago. My boyfriend of 6 years texted negative and the one after that also texted negative. My CD4 counts have always been over a 1000, and my viral load never over 200. I am not on medication because my doctor does not recommend it and also tells me I am not a risk to my sexual partners. How true is this ? I have 6 unprotected vaginal sex with my current b4 and each time he complains of a headache I fear I may have infected him. Does my high cd4 count and low viral load make it hard to transmit the virus?
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3moretolove.. are you in the medical field?
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3moretolove... 2 years to test positive? Thought the window period is 90 days from last exposure??
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Ok I just reread your post. You said your last CD4 count was over 1000 and your VL was over 200. Did your doctor tell you that your viral load climbs higher and higher everyday? Do you know what that means? It means EVERYDAY, the HIV multiplies in your body. It multiplies in your blood stream, in your organs, in your brain. Anywhere you have blood cells, HIV is busy multiplying. Your viral load will NEVER stay the same. EVERYDAY it is constantly rising up. And you do not want it to. The higher it gets the greater the chance of you infecting your partner. The higher it gets the greater the chance of you damaging you organs. Did you also know that your CD4 count drops everyday? Yup it does. I do know that at 1000 you do not need to be on hiv meds but if you are in a committed monogamous relationship and you do not want to infect your partner then you NEED to make your viral load "undetectable". That means that when they draw your blood the count is so low that it is medically called "undetectable". If you are not "undetectable" and YOU are not, you WIL infect your partner. They might not ve testing positive now but they might test positive later, as their blood seroconverts. But you need to make sure you use protection for YOU because you care about yourself and because you do not want to cause anymore damage to your body by contracting another STD. Like HPV, Hepatitis C or another strain of HIV. YES, you can contract a different strain of HIV, even if you already have it. That will make it much more difficult to treat your current HIV. Just please, go see a different doctor. Wear protection for yourself. You never know what a person has and there are many people out there that will NOT warn you and tell you that they have a chronic STD like HPV, like HIV, like Hepatitis C. Protect yourself hun. Protect your partner. See a different doctor.
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Its a known medical fact that its harder for a woman to infect a man but it definitely can and will happen. The reason being the man cums inside a woman, thus injecting her with HIV. But a woman doesnt stick anything into a man so thats why its a little harder BUT it will happen. Its just not right that you were told the wrong information. You need to use protection or you will give it to whoever you sleep with. But you said they all tested negative.... that very well might be BUT that might be because it did not show up yet in their blood work. Sometimes it can take up to 2 years for a person to test positive. It can take up to 2 years for it to be detected in a persons blood work! So you say they tested negative BUT that does not mean anything. If they test again in a year it will probably show up! Now that I have educated you about keeping your sexual partners safe, lets talk about you and keeping you safe. What about you? Do you know how many STDs are out there and especially a lot of the time people do not even know that they have one! Hepatitis C for example. That is another non curable STD. Do you really want to set yourself up to have to take such harsh HIVs AND have to take such harsh Hepatitis C meds at the same time? Do you know how sick that will make you just to keep you alive and healthy?!! You never said what your latest CD4 count was, I hope you reply and let me know so I can help you. But if it is close to 200 you NEED to be taking HIV medication right away. Please, tomorrow morning, do some research and find yourself a new infectious disease doctor for yourself. You deserve a good doctor and the one you have sounds horrible. Take care
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Oh my God! First off, any doctor that tells you that its ok and safe for you, being HIV+ to have unprotected sex is bad **** crazy! You will infect any partner you have because you have HIV! You absolutely need to change your doctor immediately! You absolutely need to wear a condom when you have sex! Dont you know that?!! Thats so wrong! Secondly, you should be on meds or you will blow your chance of staying healthy! I strongly urge you to seek out a diffetent onfectious disease doctor as soon as possible!
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