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Am I at risk?

I am incredibly nervous that their is a possibility that I could have contracted HIV. Exactly 24 days ago I had sexual contact with a guy who is HIV positive. There was no penetration and no cum shots I could say to the best of my knowledge. There was kissing, fellatio and frottage. I know that many consider that to be low risk activity but here is my concern. I may had a small cut at the corner of my mouth. it was not bleeding or anything so it was not even noticeable. It was just a dry wound no larger than one millimeter so that is why it was unnoticeable.

I also am not sure but I could have had ulcers or soars on my scrotum and groin area. A few weeks prior to the sexual contact I chemically burned my scrotum and groin area with a kojic acid soap and it never healed. On the night that I had sexual contact I thought it was healed. it was dry and did not appear bleeding at all it looked normal. I thought it was healed completely for the most part but a week after the sexual encounter it started acting up again. The skin peeled off and right now it is not at all healed.

I caught a cold from him the next day. He already had a cold. We were both working with several people during the Christmas holiday including children and babies etc. He was sick with a cold the entire time and was still sick during our sexual contact. So after words I had a cold for about a week and then it went away.

So I will give you the details of that night. Please note it is graphic. There was a lot of deep kissing... A LOT. I also preformed fellatio on him and he preformed fellatio on me. He rubbed his penis between my *** crack for several minutes. There was no penetration. He did this for maybe 15 to 30 minutes to an hour. I don't know for sure. He rubbed his penis on my *** whole a lot too. He used lube on my *** crack too while he was doing this. He also stuck his fingers in my *** whole he stuck his fingers deep into my ***. and then after preforming fellatio on him again we stopped and kissed the rest of the night.

The next morning we started fooling around a little again. I started preforming fellatio on him again. Even deep throating a little. He then stopped me and he told me that the reason why he did not penetrate me with his penis(which if we did we would have used a condom) was because he was HIV positive. I did not know how to feel  especially since I gave him several opportunities to tell me. He then told me that he takes treatment regularly so the his risk of him transmitting it to me is rather low (He told me the details as to what the medicine does. Something about T cells. I can't remember).  Anyway  he told me there was no way for him to transmit it to me unless he came inside me or maybe came on a deep open gash. I still could not help but feel horrified by  the news.

Anyway He had a cold and I caught the cold basically that day or the next day. I also got pink eye from him which to my understanding he had at one point from dealing with all those kids during the Christmas holiday. A week later the cold was gone. But now I have this dry cough that I have had for a few days now I would say. I never had a dry cough before. At least not that I can remember. And this morning, 24 days after the sexual contact, I woke up with nausea and diarrhea. I threw up three time this morning and had to use the bathroom with diarrhea quite a few times too. I seem to feel better from that now. I took off from work early and some of my coworkers told me that apparently their has been a stomach virus going around.

I don't know how to think or feel about this. with the dry cough, the nausea and diarrhea this morning, and the issue with my irritating groin area not healing which from what I have read all can be symptom of contracting the HIV virus. I am Incredibly scared that I may have contracted it. I do plan on getting tested but I am definitely terrified the results might come back positive.  
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Symptoms are the worst possible topic to discuss when it comes to determine HIV infection.
Based on what you posted you were never at risk.
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Thank You! I will still get tested because I am OCD. But what about the groin issue and the symptoms I have had? I am sorry to ask another question I know that you guys get frustrated with people like me asking the same questions. Thank You in advance
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And I quote....

"So I will give you the details of that night."

" There was a lot of deep kissing... A LOT."

- Not an exposure risk.



" I also preformed fellatio on him and he preformed fellatio on me. He rubbed his penis between my *** crack for several minutes."


- Not n exposure risk.




"There was no penetration."

- Good.

"He did this for maybe 15 to 30 minutes to an hour. I don't know for sure. He rubbed his penis on my *** whole a lot too. He used lube on my *** crack too while he was doing this. He also stuck his fingers in my *** whole he stuck his fingers deep into my ***. and then after preforming fellatio on him again we stopped and kissed the rest of the night. "

- So, you had fun.  


You had no risk.

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