I forgot to mention too that he agreed to get tested as well(pcr) in place of me if I wanted him to.
Hi, the chances are low but the activity stated above falls in the risk umbrella for HIV. At this time, its important for you to relax and stay calm. You can take a 4th generation HIV test once you complete 28-30 days of your exposure. This test is conclusive and gives definite results. You would be fine, do not worry as worry would just worsen things.
Would it be better if I just had him get the test and if he tests positive for me to get one or should I get one regardless of if he tests negative or not? I was just tested a couple weeks before I had sex with him. So I know for a fact that if I did contract something it was from him.
If you need a quick relief from anxiety, you can get him tested. But again, in the worst cases the infection might now show up if its recently caught. But the chances would lessen down even more, in fact, much more less if he tests negative. I am sure you are safe do not worry or panic. Always be calm and take wise decisions during such situation.