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Cheek Biting & Unprotected Oral Sex

Hello,

I met someone I don't know yesterday evening. We kissed and I gave him a blowjob. There was no ejaculation. By the way, my mouth was dry because I drank alcohol.  I have gum bleeding from time to time. I'm not sure if it was then or not. And in the morning I accidentally bit my cheek. I think this is a wound.

I know this is very wrong. I made a mistake. I know saliva makes the virus inactive, but my mouth was also dry. What do you think is my risk?

Many thanks...
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No worries, friend.  This would not lead to HIV.  HIV is transmitted in known and specific ways. As long as you do not have unprotected vaginal or anal sex (without condom) or inject drugs with shared IV drug needles, you will not get HIV.  Air and saliva inactivate it.  So, biting your cheek after giving oral or kissing will not in any way result in getting HIV.  Rest easy.
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Hello, thanks for your kind reply. The problem is that my mouth was pretty dry that day. Maybe there wasn't enough saliva. On the other hand, I bit my cheek before sex. I think this is considered an open wound.

Today is the third day and my symptoms are:
- My groin lymph swollen
- I got Cryptic Tonsilitis this morning (I started antibiotics)
- I had more than two cold sores on my lips.

I think I'll go crazy ...
You were already answered that it is not a risk.  Period.  You couldn't get HIV this way even if you wanted to.  Air.  Saliva.  Both inactivate the virus.  Giving oral and then after biting your cheek?  Nah.  If you can't let that go as an irrational fear, then you probably should talk to your doctor about anxiety.   Get some help for anxiety before you spiral into its grips needlessly.
No, I accidentally bit my cheek first.  Then I did bj.
Refer to my advice on March 27 and reread about worst. It is time to move on instead of arguing that the scientists who have studied hiv for 40 years have got it wrong and it is time for you to stop claiming that you are onto something new that no one else in the world did over 40 years.
Alternatively you could move on just by noting that a bj/kissing encounter  is not vaginal or anal and does not involve hollow needles. Your questions are endless only because you have ignored all of the advice and tried to present your own ideas which seem reasonable to you as a layman but are in fact unscientific so should be discontinued.
You should stop poking and irritating your lymph since you don't know what it is supposed to feel like. Anyone who has cold sores should know that virus will never leave your body so be prepared for potential outbreaks with no warning forever - although it can go into remission for decades too because it is unpredictable. It will not be surprising that you got tonsillitis if you have engaged in activities with strangers who may be infected including sharing food utensils.
Dear AnxiousNoMore, Thanks for your reply.... Having all of them at the same time made me a little panicked. Anyway... I have to calm down. I hope there will be no surprise in the future. Thanks again...
If they were from hiv you would be in a hospital. You would have a lot more problems than minor things like cold sores.
AS ANM has stated (and me), this is not a risk. No matter how, when or why you bit your cheek.  The ways you get hiv are stated.  NOTHING else is a risk.
But this is the first time I've had so many cold sores on my lip... I do not understand... My lips were dry and cracked, perhaps?
See a doctor about your cold sores if you are concerned.  They have NOTHING to do with HIV since you were never exposed to HIV.  We can't diagnose the cause of your cold sores.  We can only tell you that you did not get HIV from this event.
"that virus will never leave your body so be prepared for potential outbreaks and some people never get any tingling warning - although it can go into remission for decades too because it is unpredictable."
You indicate you have had them before, in which case the virus lives in your body. It only enters through cracks to infect people who have never been infected before.
I am not a cold sore expert, but I just pointed out that you are wasting your life trying to make sense of cold sore outbreaks - instead you just have to deal with them but see doc as Curfew stated if they are very troublesome.
Dear GuitarRox, AnxiousNoMore and CurfewX

Thanks for your replies. I guess I need to move on. It is very difficult to live with "what if" and possibilities. I trust your experience. Thank you again for your help.  
Good plan. The first step to peace is to quit googling hiv symptoms cold turkey, and second is to cold turkey stop examining your body looking for symptoms.
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  ( hands, mouth, penis, saliva, maybe blood etc.). You will be happy to learn that you had no risk, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life.
No one got hiv from what you did during 40 years of hiv history and no one will get it in the next 40 years of your life either. You can do what you did any time and be safe.
Your mouth is either filled with air or saliva so if it is dry it has air which also kills hiv.
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Hello, thanks for your kind reply. The problem is that my mouth was pretty dry that day. Maybe there wasn't enough saliva. On the other hand, I bit my cheek before sex. I think this is considered an open wound.

Today is the third day and my symptoms are:
- My groin lymph swollen
- I got Cryptic Tonsilitis this morning (I started antibiotics)
- I had more than two cold sores on my lips.

I think I'll go crazy ...
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