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Condom Freak Issue
Hi all,
I have 2 questions:
1.
28days ago, I had protected sex with a CSW. We wore a condom throughout and I ejaculated into the condom. Upon withdrawal, I saw that my semen was collected at the bottom of the condom and the condom seemed intact. I filled the condom with water and there were no leaks. After wearing my clothes, I walked to the toilet to dispose my condom. I did one last check before disposing the condom and saw that the sides of the condom had a very very tiny hole where water droplets were slowly coming out upon squeezing it. I am not making this up and there was a clear visible tiny hole. I quickly deduced that the condom could have had a small hole because I was carrying the torn condom wrapper with the same hand as the water filled condom. The torn wrapper with sharp edges could have pricked the water filled condom. Do your think that the tiny pinhole was only created post usage of the condom by the sharp edges of the wrapper?
My mind isn’t straight anymore and I am over-thinking and going crazy! Logically, a condom shouldn’t have any pinholes at the sides (not the bottom where semen collected) right? If one were to prick a condom with a needle, a hole would have been created at the bottom of the condom after unrolling it right? It would be impossible for a condom to have holes at the sides during usage no? I highly think that the hole was created post usage. However, I need a second opinion!
Nonetheless, at 28days, 3hours 30mins, I took a 4th Generation HIV AG/AB test. Would this be conclusive and highly exclude HIV infection? Can I safely move on from this encounter? My doctor whom is a HIV specialist told me that the results were conclusive and I should move on from this encounter.
2.
Also, in a separate case, do handjobs with tiny cuts on the hands of the masseur pose as a risk for HIV?
I am single and tired. Every-time I have any sexual encounter, it stresses me out. Heck, I even conduct a risk assessment before I engage in any sexual activity! I take responsibility for my sexual health and test at least once a year, but it really stresses me out.
Your inputs are greatly appreciated. Thank you all.
I have 2 questions:
1.
28days ago, I had protected sex with a CSW. We wore a condom throughout and I ejaculated into the condom. Upon withdrawal, I saw that my semen was collected at the bottom of the condom and the condom seemed intact. I filled the condom with water and there were no leaks. After wearing my clothes, I walked to the toilet to dispose my condom. I did one last check before disposing the condom and saw that the sides of the condom had a very very tiny hole where water droplets were slowly coming out upon squeezing it. I am not making this up and there was a clear visible tiny hole. I quickly deduced that the condom could have had a small hole because I was carrying the torn condom wrapper with the same hand as the water filled condom. The torn wrapper with sharp edges could have pricked the water filled condom. Do your think that the tiny pinhole was only created post usage of the condom by the sharp edges of the wrapper?
My mind isn’t straight anymore and I am over-thinking and going crazy! Logically, a condom shouldn’t have any pinholes at the sides (not the bottom where semen collected) right? If one were to prick a condom with a needle, a hole would have been created at the bottom of the condom after unrolling it right? It would be impossible for a condom to have holes at the sides during usage no? I highly think that the hole was created post usage. However, I need a second opinion!
Nonetheless, at 28days, 3hours 30mins, I took a 4th Generation HIV AG/AB test. Would this be conclusive and highly exclude HIV infection? Can I safely move on from this encounter? My doctor whom is a HIV specialist told me that the results were conclusive and I should move on from this encounter.
2.
Also, in a separate case, do handjobs with tiny cuts on the hands of the masseur pose as a risk for HIV?
I am single and tired. Every-time I have any sexual encounter, it stresses me out. Heck, I even conduct a risk assessment before I engage in any sexual activity! I take responsibility for my sexual health and test at least once a year, but it really stresses me out.
Your inputs are greatly appreciated. Thank you all.
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Hey thanks for the reply. I truly appreciate it. I shall move on from this encounter. I guess i have to seek mental help or not the next time I have sex, i will get anxiety. Thanks again
Yes, if you are frequently anxious having sex, it is best to seek some help from anxiety so you don't go through this loop each time of over thinking.
Thanks GuitarRox. I think the hardest part is recognising and admitting to this phobia cum anxiety illness that I have.
"I take responsibility for my sexual health and test at least once a year," That is also a phobia. There is no reason to test annually for hiv - there are thousands of diseases or conditions that you might actually get because they develop on their own yet you don't test for any of them because there isn't time for that so singling out hiv you have no risk for is a phobia.
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That's one of the hallmarks of anxiety. Overthinking and ruminating. Anxiety is treatable if you find it happening in relation to more than just this event and you can't put this non risk event out of your head.
Any 4th generation test take at 28 days or beyond gives an accurate result that doesn't change.
You do not need to test for that encounter though.
Your second concern is also not a risk. The ONLY risks for hiv are to have unprotected vaginal or anal intercourse or share IV drugs. Hand jobs, with or without cuts is not a risk. Air is in circulation, air inactivates the virus. NO risk from that.