We rely on the opinion of expert doctors so we do not pay attention to what people find online and who they have talked to or else we will be here all day arguing. Some sites use theoretical risks that have never manifested in the 40 years of hiv history so that advice is useless - In the real world, the next person who gets hiv from oral will be the first.
There has been no hiv from oral in 40 years. TIme to move on from hiv fixation, because you don't spend all day worrying about about all the other diseases that can ACTUALLY get you.
You can get covid and pass it on to others from not social distancing if she had covid, yet you didn't worry about that, so it makes no sense that you are worried about something that has never happened in 40 years.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (her mouth which is not a risk for hiv.) No worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.