Possible penetration, HIV concern

[elevinas]

Hi all. I posted a few weeks ago with a question whose content almost the reverse of this one.

Last night (only about 6-7 hours ago) I was in bed with the same man (says he's HIV negative). He was grinding his penis against my anus, and at one point, he pushed his penis against the opening, which created some pressure in the area. My concern is that he had fingered my anus prior to this, and because the situation was more "relaxed" down there as a result, it felt as though the tip of his penis had gently gone in. I would say it was no more than half a centimetre or so.

Obviously I stopped him immediately, requested he put on a condom and we resumed. As it happens we weren't able to proceed with anal sex because the initial pain of insertion was too much for me to bear.

My question is: does the pre-condom event count as penetration? The sensation was nothing like after he put the condom on (ie. significant pain), but I can't help but feel like I took a risk anyway allowing him to "push" in as much as he did. Or is the post-condom event the only one that really counts as penetration?

Thanks.

[elevinas]

Thank you Teak. Should I not be concerned about any possible tearing that may have occurred while he fingered me prior to this event, though? Even if his penis pushed in as little as it did?

[Teak]

Reread the replies you have already been given.