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HIV Anxiety

Hi,

This forum is awesome and I am hopeful that a knowledgable/qualified person can answer my question.  I recently had unprotected oral sex with a stripper (I performed cunnilingus on her and she performed fellatio on me) for a few minutes.  I did not ejaculate and I'm fairly certain that she did not orgasm either.  I am riddled with fear that I have contracted HIV from her.  I do not know her status so that is fueling my fear even more.  I have read on this forum another others that there is NO risk associated with oral sex, but I've also read information the CDC website, along with others about this that determine oral sex to be low risk.  

1) Did my situation put me at risk for contracting HIV?

2) Out of caution, I had tests for other STI's and they were all negative.  I also took an Oraquick at-home test at day 43 past the encounter and it was negative.  I know that the CDC as well as the Oraquick FAQ's state that 3 months is the rule of thumb for a conclusive test, however I've read alot of other information that at 6 weeks the test should prove to be accurate.  Would you agree?

I'm sure most will say that the testing was irrelevant as there was never any risk.  That very well could be true but I took the test to calm my fears.  It only worked for a day or so before I started panicking again.  Just looking for some clarity on my risk and how to handle the anxiety that is utterly controlling me.  Thanks!!!!
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The only risks for HIV in adults are:
1) Having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, or
2) sharing intravenous needles.

Those are the facts.  As for your anxiety, perhaps discuss it with your doctor or seek out a counselor.  There's no reason to live with irrational fear when help is available.
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Thank you CurfewX!  I very much appreciate the quick response and your words are what I need to trust.  

Essentially you're saying that I need to put more stock into the fact that there was no risk event rather than hope that the test was accurate at 6 weeks.....?  I guess I have been scouring the internet hoping for a double confirmation - no risk and a negative Oraquick test result.  
Correct.  There was no reason to test at all.   Testing for a no-risk event while having anxiety is a very bad combination.  There's a slight risk of getting a false positive or indeterminate reading due to the extreme sensitivity of the test.  This is why we never recommend testing for non-risk events, especially when people are already anxious.  Better to work on accepting the long-established science regarding HIV transmission.
That certainly makes sense.  Thank you again for your answers - already feeling so much better!  
The first step to peace is to stop googling cold turkey otherwise you can't go back to your happy life.
Thanks AnxiousNoMore - another excellent piece of advice and I appreciate you taking time to add that.  Googling aimlessly has been the worst part of this.  So much conflicting info and so many unconfirmed sources out there - it has consumed me and almost given me panic attacks at times.  I'll definitely heed your advice and step away from the keyboard.
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