HIV Risk One Time Exposure

[WorriedMalaysian]

Dear all,

I am very worried about my one time exposure. First of all I am a 26 y/o homosexual Asian male from Malaysia and I am not in a relationship. For my whole life I have had sex for four times.

- The first time when I was 22 and really curious, but it was with a condom.

- Second time was last year (2014) around November with my ex boyfriend, and we used a condom.

- The third and fourth time were my most regretted ones. I met this this guy and he is a 25 y/o Malaysian, we had sex and it was my third time and we used a condom. The fourth time we met again, and I thought he had a condom but he said that he did not have it. I did not want to do that but before that, he used a lot of KY around my anus and it was too slippery and he came in easily... But I was freaked out the moment he came in and I asked him to come out and he did... I was sure he did not ejaculate in me as I masturbated him to ejaculate in the end. At last we did not really had sex, he just came in for a few seconds and I ended up masturbating him, no oral in the whole process.

I am so worried now and I am definitely going to get tested (the exposure was on 3rd May 2015). I have consulted my doctor friend and he said it was nothing to worry about, and an experienced Nurse-Counselor who is working in the government ID Clinic also told me that it wasn't really an extremely high risk, given that the contact time was short and he did not ejaculate in me. But still, I was very worried, what if he had pre-ejaculate and i did not notice it? (but he was quite dry when I masturbated him). And now I am very worried.

I have asked my partner if he is sure he is HIV-free for more than three times and he said that he was sure that he is HIV-free, and that he was almost fed up with me keep asking him so I don't dare to ask him anymore. But he could be lying right? I am so worried, guilty, regretted now... I am getting tested after 8 weeks and 3 months.

These few days I discovered three white painless thingy around my anus and I went to two doctors. The first doctor told me that it was skin tag and nothing to worry about, second one told me that it was some sort of healed injury and gave me some medicine to apply. And now I am even more scared, I have injury around my anus and I did not even notice it when I had sex with him.

Would really appreciate on any answer given. I am very worried, depressed, regretted, guilty now...      

Thank you for all answers given and all those who read this.

[Worriedguysks1]

Symptoms tell nothing about HIV, don't worry too much. However take a test a duo test at 28 days post exposure, take care and be well.

[WorriedMalaysian]

Not had any yet... Last contact with him was 3rd May 2015 and ID Clinic Nurse told me that still far too early to do any test.

Thanks for replying.