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Hello, thank you in advance I had a recent encounter the reason of my concern is a had a cranker sore and a small cut in my mouth I gave oral sex to the guy (hiv status unknown) he didn’t eyaculate but 2 weeks later I have a swollen node on my neck .  Please help me!!
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
It is unlikely that you even know the purpose of lymph so you should not be poking it and irritating it.
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So no one has gotten hiv through oral sex? That differs from documents out there that claim that is a low risk but not impossible?! So having cut in my mouth would put me more at risk
You can reread anything on the internet and you don't have any medical training so there is a good chance that if you have read a technical paper you wouldn't know how to understand it. We rely on the opinion of expert doctors and don't pay attention to whatever you can find on the internet, otherwise we will be arguing all day.
Reread about meteor- you don't worry about a meteor hitting you as you type do you?
Some sites use conservative guidelines that have never manifested in history - how useless is that? Hundreds of people actually die from E Coli every year, but you don't test for that after each meal so why the fixation on something that is just a sci-fi theory?
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Yes, no one has gotten HIV through oral sex.  There isn't a single, documented case.  Sure, you find 'stories' on the internet but the internet is full of false information.  You will not get HIV from giving oral sex to a male partner (or receiving).  Saliva has enzymes in it that break down the virus and render it inactive.  I think you understand lymph nodes and am not sure why that comment was made.  If you have a reactive lymph node, I would think about if you have been sick in the past six months.  Having a lymphatic response is not uncommon and can happen even if we have a cold.  It can happen for a variety of reasons. But in your situation you've explained, it is not at all because of HIV.

Adults only get HIV from unprotected vaginal or anal sex or sharing IV drug needles.  Don't do those activities, you won't get HIV.  
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Thank you for your time ! I will get tested in a few months since I live in DR and we don’t have this test you buy at the pharmacy!
That isn't even close to what I wrote or related.  At this point, you really aren't listening and your anxiety is ruling your mind irrationally.  I said clearly you had no risk. Testing is a waste of time and money. Your time and money will be best spent speaking to a doctor about anxiety.  I hope you do that.  
Yes I will seek mental help however there is conflictive information when it comes to oral sex Check what the doctor said : https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---International/Oral-and-eye-exposure/show/2186527
Most of the other docs who posted here give a risk ratio (1/10,000) which equates to giving oral sex every day for 27 years.   If you wish to be concerned about an 0.01% risk - and that is only with someone who is KNOWN to be HIV+ - that is certainly your choice, but not a concern we're going to support.  You might as well never leave the house, and test for every known disease.

Here is a  large-scale study of serodiscordant couples showing the extreme unlikelihood of contracting HIV through oral sex - zero reported infections in at least 19,000 oral events with someone known to be HIV+:

The choice about whether to live with a rather high level of unwarranted anxiety is yours alone.
You can get E Coli from any meal and hundreds die every year. You should test for that after every meal if you  are testing for oral sex hiv, because the odds are much higher that your burger will kill you from E Coli.
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