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HIV from Deep Kissing with Bleeding Gums and/or Mouth Sore

Good day!
I would like to inquire regarding the incident that happened to me last week.
I received blowjob from someone and we engaged into deep kissing most of the time. As far as I can recall, I had a mouth sore while we were kissing and while doing it, I tasted a hint of blood, but I am not sure if it is mine or my partner's.
After 4 days, I developed a sore throat and feeling feverish.
My questions are:
1) Can HIV be transmitted through deep kissing, considering I had a mouth sore and/or bleeding gums and supposing my kissing partner was poz? I have read a post way back 1997 that someone got infected with HIV through deep kissing. CDC also stated in their page that there is a risk in deep kissing if your mouth is having gum problems such as sores and/or bleeding.
2) From what I am experiencing now, am I seroconverting? My throat is hurting and I cannot think of other things I did except the kissing that happened to me last week.

Hoping to receive a reply from you soon. Thank you so much
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  ( braces, mouth, lips, sores, etc.). No hiv worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this question. Did I do any of the 3? Then after you say "No, I didn't" then it's time to move on back to your happy life.
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This is not how people get HIV.  They mention theoretical risk but that is not actual risk.  NO ONE has gotten HIV this way in a single, documented case in all the time of HIV and studying it.  Experts in the field of HIV guide the answers we give on this forum and these are the only risks that lead to HIV transmission.  They include having unprotected vaginal or anal sex with penetration or sharing IV drug needles.  Saliva and air inactivate the virus.  So, deep kissing even with sores in the mouth would not result in your getting HIV.  No, you are not seroconverting.  Symptoms do not work that way and are NEVER used to diagnose HIV.  

We are in the middle of a pandemic as well as other viruses being prevalent. Sore throats are rampant with viruses.  If your sore throat persists, get a covid 19 test.  Wear a mask and keep your distance from others.  
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Thank you for this comment! It made me feel relieved.

So regardless of  my bleeding gums or my partner's, it cannot transmit HIV supposing I accidentally exchanged blood with my partner while deep kissing for minutes?
Yes, regardless of bleeding, deep kissing will not result in HIV.  That is exactly what I am saying. You have no reason to worry.  
Hi again! I have another question...I hope I am not bothering. Let's say I was kissing and my partner happens to have gonorrhea and HIV. While kissing, there was a hint of blood. I know chances are a bit high that I might get gonorrhea but, how about the chances of getting HIV? Is it high considering he has another STD aside HIV?
It doesn't matter how many "what ifs" you add to this question.  You can't get HIV from kissing.  Period.
How about intercrural sex? Is HIV transmission possible with this one? I have read on medical websites that transmission thru this kind of sex is possible. I am scared.
Do you know what intercrural sex is? NON PENETRATIVE sex.  You've already been told that penetration, intercourse (anal or vaginal) is required for transmission or sharing IV drug needles.  At this point, your anxiety is running wild.  
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