It is, unfortunately, impossible for me to say you had no risk and do not need to test because you have no memory of what happened AFTER you initially used a condom. Did she remove it? Did you? Did it slip off? Did it break?
Without knowing these facts, I would strongly recommend that you test.
Since you are already 8 weeks post exposure, you could have any blood drawn HIV test now which would give you a very good indication of your status. There are some experts out there who feel 8 weeks is conclusive, but we follow the international guidelines of 12 weeks for a 100% conclusive result.
You are past the window period for ARS, which shows up anywhere between 2-6 weeks and lasts for about a week. You would KNOW if you had ARS!
The rapid finger stick test you did at 17 days was rather useless as the average time to seroconversion is 22 days. Most who are infected will test positive by 4 weeks if a 4th generation DUO test is used. For various reasons a small number will take longer and that is why we follow the international recommendation to retest at 3 months for a conclusive negative result.
The blood work you had done recently does not look for HIV. A very specific test is needed to diagnose HIV.
Symptoms are NEVER used to diagnose HIV as they can be indicative of hundreds of other issues.
I trust you and your partner are using condoms until your final results are in at 12 weeks.
I wish you the best outcome