Hiv Fear

[BeyondScared2018]

Yesterday I met up with a guy from an app and we mutually masturbated with each other and he gave me head + ate my *** and I kissed his *** but didn’t lick it. Nothing else happened. All would have been fine but he came on me which I didn’t think too much at the time ( I cleaned it up of course) but we kept going until I finished. What bothers me now thinking back on it is he came on my penis! What if there are minor cuts on my penis that the semen may have got into. I’ve also felt like I have herpes or a few months now but have not got tested yet and I read herpes / stds increase the risk of hiv. Also what if his *** spread down to my butt crack and made its way to my a*hole could I get hiv that way? We also kept going so what if there was still *** after we cleaned him up and it entered inside of me in any which way as I kept switch positions. really scared here should I take pep? Tomorrow at 3 pm will be around 48 hours since the terrible experience I’m running out of time. Please help, anyone:( I’m scared to take pep but I’d rather do that if it could lower my chances of acquiring hiv which I’d have for life. Thanks again. I also want to say I’m not sure if he’s hiv positive but in the gay community it’s a higher chance to acquire hiv so you can never be too sure. I’m so stupid we should have used conforms I know. And I have to say there was no penentration! He did play around back there but I would have felt it go inside which i know it didn’t (I’ve never had it happen to me before) but I’d imagine it’d hurt really badly or I’d at least notice it). Please help I’m running out of time I promise I’ll never be this irresponsible again!

[Pagal_Guy]

Well,  ANM already expalined you HIV risks and your situation is straightforward i.e. No Risk - "Zero"

Once exposed to Ambient,  the outer shell of the virus is immediatly damaged and it losses its capability to infect and becomes un-infectious.

Secondaly,  PEP is not a easy drug and taking it on a No Risk situation will do more harm to your body.  PEP is not warranted in your case.

Stop googling as it will only fuel your anxiety.

Move On.  You do not have any HIV concern.

[AnxiousNoMore]

" It’s unfortunate that every experience I have sexually is ruined because of my mind." It doesn't have to be this way if a therapist meeting is successful. But you have to make the appointment.

[BeyondScared2018]

Thank you guys! I appreciate it. You’ve really calmed me down. I’m still going to go get tested of course at the proper time for peace of mind but I think I can think of other things in the meantime. Appreciate your help! I’ll try to come back in 4 weeks and keep u guys updated on the results if I remember!

[zell_lin]

Your test will be negative based on that exposure only

[AnxiousNoMore]

There is zero purpose in updating because you are the only one who doesn't understand you can't have HIV so no one is interested in your test result. Do yourself a favor and face reality by seeing a therapist instead of wasting another month living in an imaginary world.

[BeyondScared2018]

Okay thank you!

[AnxiousNoMore]

This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
PEP would be ridiculous to take for your situation. It is not candy and has some potential permanent risks.
Your other post indicates you have spent much of your life fearing HIV, so I suggest you see a therapist and try to deal with this irrational fear, and get some fun out of your life instead.

[BeyondScared2018]

while I appreciate your answer, info on the internet states otherwise. I’ve read over and over that it takes minutes for the virus to die as well as i thought there were more ways to get the virus! Either way if I am negative this time I will for sure get help for my insane thoughts. It’s unfortunate that every experience I have sexually is ruined because of my mind. But to close out I just want to say thank you for answering it’s calmed me down a bit. Him cumming on me really freaked me out as it’s never happened before and It made me think about all the possible ways it could have gotten into me. I appreciate your response and thank you for your kindness!