Hiv combo test exactly 30 days of exposure

[Onestep123]

On the 6th of January I had unprotected sex with a girl I met at a bar, then we met again on the 12th of January we had sex agin unprotected I know stupid of me. After that I had sex with my wife we both came down with flu like symptoms on the 21st my wife first and then me a week later. I have been so freaked out with all the aches and pains I have been feeling so I went to a nhs gum clinic with the girl I met at the bar and both got tested she came out clear so did I, that was on on the 15th of janurary as I had started freaking out and regretting what I had done. Then on the 11th of February we got tested again me and the girl that I met at the bar we both came back negative and now she has been texting me horrible things like atleast it’s one sexual encounter less that I have to worry about. Please can someone tell me when I should test as my last test was 30 days after the incident. I’m just so worried and feel like testing every week I need some closure.

[Onestep123]

Thank you for your advise, however I am going to go and get another test today 37 days after exposure hiv combo test results should be back at some point today, from a private clinic laboratory (tdl) Manchester Will give you the outcome and will promise to close the book there. Thank you once again

[mike_no]

It's going to be negative. You're only going to do da whoo hoo!

[AnxiousNoMore]

Yes, you are the only one who doesn't understand it is no risk so no need to update your negative placebo test  here. You should be spending your money on a therapist to solve your problem instead of playing this game of disreality that is painful.

[Onestep123]

Sorry but unprotected vaginal is a risk that’s why I’m anxious. I have been for the test now waiting for the results

[mike_no]

You have already tested conclusive. Now what you're doing is just plain obsession. No one is going to be surprised with your another negative. You should listen to what ANM told you, see a counselor. Testing beyond conclusive is not a normal thing to do.

[Onestep123]

Hi I got my results today and they came back negative 37 days after exposure. Thank you all and I am going to seek counselling. Thank you once again.

[Onestep123]

Why do my posts keep getting deleted?

[Kirstie_MHModerator]

Please check your email account.

[Onestep123]

Thank you guys, just one more question for the last 5 weeks now I have lost a lot of weight. Could this be due to the anxiety and stress I have been going through?

[AnxiousNoMore]

This is an hiv forum so you need to move on from wondering if there is an hiv connection to other problems. If you stop worrying and your weight comes back then   you will answer your question,otherwise see doc.

[Onestep123]

Listen I wouldn’t have been too concerned about it, but I wake up almost every night drenched in my own sweat.

[mike_no]

That's pure anxiety. You are subconsciously always thinking about what if you infect your wife? What if she confronts you with it? If you have a 'fear', waking up to night sweat is obvious.

The good news is you have conclusively tested negative and you don't have HIV concern any more, you should now work with a counselor for your emotional issues, please don't confuse them for HIV and dwell in fear as an outlet for expression.

[mike_no]

You do not need to test further.  Acceptance starts right from where you are at, your test at 30 days was conclusive and it's not likely to change any further.

It seems you are struggling with some underlying emotion, it could be fear of disease or guilt of cheating etc for that you will need a one on one session with a counselor. As stated by others, HIV is not your concern.

[GuitarRox]

You did have a risk, obviously.  But you've now tested with a combo (4th generation Duo test) at 30 days which is conclusive.  You did not get HIV.  From a single encounter or two of unprotected vaginal sex, the incidence of HIV transmission is very low. But since you have a wife, don't put her at risk like that.  If you have to step out of your marriage, use condoms.  Block the lady texting you and move on.  You didn't get HIV from this.

[Onestep123]

Thank you, I will never put myself in this situation again. I’m still trying it so difficult to believe that 30 days is sufficienct I don’t know why. I’m trying to get over this and get my life back to normal I think by taking one more test will give me that assurance only due to the symptoms that have been showing with me and my wife.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Since you don't believe the scientists that claim one test is conclusive then it is unlikely that you will believe it after another or multiple times. Despite having no medical training, you only believe in your own science fiction theory that you know how to diagnose hiv which is unrealistic for you to think you can diagnose.
HIV docs can't diagnose hiv from symptoms so you are wasting your time pretending that you can. First step to peace is to admit you have no medical training so you need to stop googling for death cold turkey and stop analyzing your body cold turkey - because you are trying to work up your science fiction theory that the test is wrong and you are right. I hope you don't tell your wife about your theory, because she might end up believing it too.

[Onestep123]

My wife didn’t go for the test it was me and the girl who I had unprotected sex with. I totally understand what your saying I haven’t told my wife anything as I I’m believing in the tests.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Good. People cough on your lips and door knobs so flu is to be expected at any time.  Maybe see a therapist to put yourself out of this self inflicted misery that has no reason.