Hi there. 33 yo male from Europe here.
I had an encounter with a girl 8 weeks ago. We had protected vaginal sex and unprotected oral both ways. Before we had sex I asked her to do STI check, as I did as well, as she stated that she had no sexual partners for 3+ months and her tests are conclusive so I trusted her and she did 3 test within a 10 days period (2 rapid + 4th gen + HCV + Syphilis rapid). All negative.
I was okay with that. She was at the end of her period and actually thought it was over a few days before. I licked her but it was quite dark so I didn't see much. At the very end, I spotted small traces of blood on her white underwear, that she put up just right before the encounter. It means that her period wasn't over yet.
As I trusted tests and her I ignored it completely. 10 days after I had some throat pain and touchy lymph nodes in my neck but I ignored it as well. It happens to me sometimes because of EBV. But around 6 weeks I started to feel nausea, had rash-like, flat, non-itchy, redness on my chest 3 days in a row, that appeared quickly and disappeared 2-3 hours later. It looked like a medicine allergy, but I take no medicine. Then came back the next day and the day after. Same pattern. I haven't seen it any more since then. It freaked me out completely. Since 2 weeks I have discomfort under the right and left rib (spleen + liver). I know that feeling to well from mono I had before, but it has never come back until now. I feel constantly tired, my legs are achy. Then I came back to living and I felt very well. Since a few weeks back after that encounter.
Some of you will say that mouth is not a route for HIV infection as saliva deactivates virus, but the EBV episode triggered geographic tongue so I have chronic, benign inflammation of the tongue (bald, sometimes inflamed patches on my tongue).
In case she lied to me about recent sexual partners (I've seen tests results) and got infected recently + menstrual blood traces + geographic tongue, is that a valid route for HIV infection in that case? I would say I knew a lot about HIV and testing, all possibilities of late seroconversions, tests etc. but that was somewhat surprising and new type of risk to me as I don't even like sex during periods.
I can't test until mid-November (it will be 11 weeks) as I'm out of the country and feel really scared due to these symptoms. I hope it's something else.. but never know.