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Hiv risk - worried

Hi forum,

Would appreciate your help as I’m so worried...

I had protected vaginal sex with a sex worker, unprotected oral sex, and also my penis rubbed the outside of her vagina for a while without a condom (no penetration when it was bare).

Could you please advise on the HIV risks in this case? Many thanks!
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
You can't get hiv when you use a condom. she knows that and you need to know it too.
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Thank you for replying, just to clarify exactly the scenario that happened - I have used my penis to masturbate her vagina (from the outside, on her clit and so such, without penetrating)... does this increase the risk of getting infected?
Which of the 3 do you feel was your risk? If none, then you are just worrying about a science fiction theory that seems logical but ignores the word fragile in my advice so reread it.
I feel like what I just described perhaps falls under the definition of unprotected vaginal sex... that's what I'm basically worry about
No, masturbating and intercourse are two different things. You didn't have unprotected penetrations. Therefore it is not a risk for HIV. Please accept the advice offered to you. As stated by anm you don't have any risk to worry about.
You must be very anxious if you think those 2 are the same thing. Forget about this non-event as mike said, and go enjoy yourself.
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