Hypothetical Question

[Barkley1000]

I had two unprotected sex 2012 and 2013 with two girls that I know, and I never heard that they had any problems so far.

I got baby 2019, my wife and baby (per rules) are tested negative.

From 2013 to 2019 I had sex many, many times with my wife.

I never had any symptoms and I never tested for HIV.

Should I worry after all those years of getting HIV, 6 and 7 years ago?

Thanks

[mike_no]

Though it is very likely that you are okay and have nothing to worry about from what you have mentioned here. However, an unprotected vaginal or anal sex warrants an HIV test to rule out doubts of HIV contraction.

As suggested by my fellow poster, you could take any antibody test at this point for a conclusive result. If I was you, I wouldn't really have worried much about this.

[Barkley1000]

Thanks, I appreciate your answer. A few my friends also had experience with those girls, and they are also fine so far (as I know).

I just wanted to know if my wife is tested negative, after many years with me, is that means that I'm also negative.

[mike_no]

I am afraid, I can't provide you a definitive 'No' because from a theoretical perspective, HIV is a fragile virus, it's not a compulsion to either transmit or contract the virus through one or more episodes of unprotected vaginal or anal sexual activities.

From a practical point of view, it seems that you are okay. It's obvious that you had a lot of intimacy with your spouse, she and your child has tested negative during childbirth, this only indicates that every thing is alright.

You have to take your pick here, if you are being obsessively worried about these events from the yesteryear, just take a test to chuck out all the worry out of your window.

[Barkley1000]

Yeah, I understand. I will see in the next few days. I have a fear to test myself, that is the problem. Other guys don't worry about similar cases at all, because they have similar experience with friends of those girls.

[AnxiousNoMore]

You don not get hiv every time you have sex with someone who has hiv, so you it does not prove anything about the woman just because those guys did not get hiv. It also makes no sense to fear a test, because you should not live your life in fear.
There is risk of hiv so it is good that you will test and not expose your wife to any more risk.

[AnxiousNoMore]

It was already answered on your other thread that your oral is not a risk. Please pay attention to that advice and move on.
HIV prevention is straightforward if you avoid the 3.

[Barkley1000]

Please read what I wrote. Thanks

[AnxiousNoMore]

Any test is conclusive after 3 months, so any will be conclusive at this point. You need to test for an answer, because all the guesswork you are doing is not going to provide an answer that a test will do.