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Is this a risk?

Hi,

I'm a gay male who was fingered (I'm not sure if it was rectum or anus). Its a bit hard to remember what happened so I apologise. However, when I was fingered, my boyfriend had his cum on his hand and as he went to finger me, his cum was going in my anus/rectum. I don't know if it was cum or sweat, but if it was cum what are the risks of getting HIV, I am 14 years old and I totally realise my mistake and I have promised never to have done something as silly as this again, please help so I can put my mind at rest or make any move needed.

Also, are cum, semen and sperm the same? The problem is I am so uneducated in this area so I'd appreciate responses, thank you!!
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You are at no risk!
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Thanks for your feedback! Could you tell me why? Also, I forgot to mention I was masturbating with my partner before hand and then my partner spunked. I cant remember how long it was when he fingered me after he spunked.
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Does your boyfriend have HIV?
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Sorry I didn't make my story clear, this is the updated version:

Hi,

I'm a gay male who was fingered (I'm not sure if it was rectum or anus). Its a bit hard to remember what happened so I apologise. I was masturbating with my partner when he spunked on his hand. I was then fingered with the hand my boyfriend had spunked on and as he went to finger me, his cum was going in my anus/rectum. I don't know if it was cum or sweat, but if it was cum what are the risks of getting HIV or an STD? I am 14 years old and I totally realise my mistake and I have promised never to have done something as silly as this again, please help so I can put my mind at rest or make any move needed. I do not know how long it was after he spunked when he fingered me and I also cant remember if it was his hand or fingers he used to finger me with but this wouldn't matter either way right? Also, I am very uneducated about sex education and things so can someone tell me if semen, sperm and cum are all the same? Thanks so much for any answers.
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I think your story was clear...does your boyfirend have HIV?
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As far as I know, no. He told me I'm the only boy he has had a relationship with and he one time sucked my penis and I thought you could get HIV/STD through this but he said I didnt cum in his mouth. By the way I changed the story in the previous comment, did you read it?
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Nothing to read as it is no risk as you did not have penitrative sex.

You can get a STD from oral sex even if you don't ejaculate.
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So I am at no risk of HIV? And I didn't suck, I was being sucked.. Does this put me at any risk of an STD?
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No HIV risk-post in the HIV forum.
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I have been sucked by him more than once but I dont know how many times, does this put me at risk of anything?
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HIV is not transmitted by oral sex.
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Thank you so much! I don't know how many times he has sucked my penis (it's been more than once) am I at risk of an STD/STI?

I have realised my mistakes and I have promised to do nothing serious until I have finished school!

I appreciate the answers so much.
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Sorry, I mean to write...post in the STD forum
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Okay I shall do that now, thank you so much for your help, so just to recap

I haven't got anything from the question before oral sex?

Also, are the rectum and the anus the same thing?
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