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Kissing an hiv positive person

I am 24 male i kissed a girl on may 15, 2018. It was a deep kiss but I couldn't remember whether i had cut in my mouth or neither she had a cut in her mouth. But we kissed for nealy 20 minutes it was really a deep kiss. But I didn't had sex with her because it was first meeting for us. After, that we were having phone conversation for this whole year. On December I don't know the date exactly she said to me that she is hiv positive. Now on January 5, 2019 i had digestive problem and now i am on medications but i have mild fever at nights and i doesn't feel to eat much (loss of appitite). But i think i have contacted it by kissing. I am so afraid to get tested. My symptoms are showing up i get diarrhea in semi solids. I am so afraid now what shall i do please help me....
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
I also took those medications, but neither you nor I have HIV because we don't have any risk. I am doubting you have a nightly fever.
The first step to peace is to stop wasting your time googling for hiv death because that will only make you anxious - do this cold turkey and move on.
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Yes i am so worried that i have night fever, night sweats like symptoms, not vomiting, not feeling to eat, so much stress, i also searching in internet some say no and some say I don't know what should i do what show i believe. But you are the only person to explain me.. thank you so much but still i worried and afraid to test because i already took a test before this activity of kising i was negative so again i am so stressful to take test
Which of the only 3 risks do you feel your encounter was? Otherwise you are just making up your own science fiction, which is unrealistic for you to think that could become reality since you don't have any medical research background.
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The fact that you suddenly had "symptoms" once you found out she is HIV+ points toward your symptoms being due to anxiety.  As AnxiousNoMore stated, you had zero risk for HIV, no matter what.  Forget about this event and move on.
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