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M4M Oral Sex Risk and Symptoms

I am a gay male who enjoys giving oral to other men. For the most part, I do not know most of them, but I generally use condoms if I know it would be a one time encounter. However, last Wednesday, I gave oral sex to someone who I did not know and, for some stupid reason, I did not use a condom. He decided to ejaculate in my throat without telling me and I was forced to swallow. At the time, I was not super concerned because he had said he was tested earlier this year and that last time he was with someone was back in March. He left and then blocked me from contacting him.

On Saturday, roughly 3 days later, I came home from a long drive exploring a national park and felt nauseated and had pain under my arms with the back of my neck and ears feeling very warm. I figured the pain under my arms was from driving 8 hours that strained my underarm muscles and that the warmth on my neck and ears was maybe a sunburn.The symptoms continued on and off where I decided I needed to go to the doctor, which I did on Tuesday. I asked to be tested for HIV and that was done but the doctor did not really help with regards to what he symptoms could be from (and it was through the computer so wasn't very helpful I felt).

Today is Wednesday and I still am nauseous with swollen lymph nodes and intermittently warmth behind my ears and neck.No fever, rash, sore throat, or anything else that I can link to AHS.

Sorry for the long story, but I guess my questions are:

1. Is it likely that my symptoms of swollen armpit lymph nodes, nausea, and warmth behind my ears and neck be the first signs of HIV contraction without having fever, sore throat, or rash?

2. Can symptoms show up within 3 days and even after 5 days from the first symptom showing, not progress to other symptoms?

Thank you in advance.

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freefalling30  I was not trying to pile on. I did not notice that your question was already answered.
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There is nothing inside your throat except air and saliva, either of which instantly kills hiv.
"I had read that it is unlikely to get hiv from oral". We rely on the opinion of expert doctors so don't pay attention to claims that people locate on other sites or else we will be here all day arguing. Your problem is you are interchanging the advice zero risk with unlikely, as if they were the same word, so until you overcome that block you will continue to waste your time with impossible hiv theories. The next person to get hiv from oral will be the first, and the next 40 years will be the same as the last 40, so you will not be that person.
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air  (his penis. which is not a risk for hiv.) No worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way that you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
Your symptoms have nothing to do with hiv, since you cannot have hiv. You might have contracted Covid if he had it, so perhaps that is what is nauseating you, however keep an open mind to the fact that anxiety can make people feel they are sick. I do not have any disease, but allergies make me get nasal stuffiness, which if I didn't know better I would think means I am sick, because I feel more dizzy and sick the more I think about my non event.
You do not know what your lymph is supposed to feel like so should stop poking it and stop trying to diagnose a disease that you can't have.
Your doctor is ill informed about hiv so he wasted your time testing for it, You should talk to doc again now about your symptoms, or your health authorities to see if you should get a Covid test. If your doc insists that you had an hiv risk, find a better one and get a diagnosis. You should also be sd in this age of Covid, fwiw.
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Thank you for your comment. Unfortunately, it was not in the air, it was a direct shot down my throat since he kinda pushed my face down without informing me he was ejaculating.
Also, after the act, on the day I started having symptoms, I was not even worried about it. Even before giving oral, I had read that it is unlikely to get hiv from oral (which is why I felt alright to give him a bj). It's just when symptoms appeared and stayed for several days that I began to worry that I had an infection of some sort and anything you type in regarding swollen lymph nodes always mentions HIV as a possibility, not anything else.
You might be sick from something that infected you a few days before the sex - however you are highly anxious, and anxiety can make you think you are sick so I have no idea if you even are - but the only known fact for sure is that you can't have hiv, so you need to stop ignoring that important science fact that completely roadblocks your theories.
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The only risks for HIV transmission in adults are:
1) Having unprotected anal or vaginal sex, or
2) sharing intravenous needles.

There are no symptoms of HIV that would show up within 3 days, ever.  Apart from that, you weren't at risk of HIV.  Whatever is causing your swollen nodes has nothing to do with HIV.
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Thank you for your response. I went to my doctor who did not offer much help on what else it could be and I did speak with a disease specialist over the phone with whom I have an appointment with next week.

I asked specifically on the timeline of symptoms at the 3 day mark and he did mention it is possible. He also said it is possible to contract it orally but that it is not likely. It was a short discussion so I did not ask if he has seen this before or if he is saying possible to cover all bases. This just makes it worse when even doctors are brushing me off on not trying to offer reasonable alternatives to why I have a swollen lymph node under my arms and nausea without a fever or rash. Today marks day 9 from possible exposure.
Your doctor is clearly not an infectious disease or HIV specialist.  Symptoms could not possibly exhibit at day 3.  

Here is a research study that you may find helpful regarding oral sex: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/12045500

I have nothing more to add, other than any association between your symptoms and your sexual activity is fictitious.
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