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Oral sex without ejaculation. positive Finger prick Hiv test im so scared

Hello so I gave my friend oral sex without ejaculation 10 months ago (march 2020) and got tested 3 weeks after that and it was negative. 10 months later for peace of mind because i have anxiety i tested again. And they said it came back as a faint weak positive and took blood from me. I thought oral was safe..? I constantly have asked him if hes infected and he said no hes not. Hes a married man who back in (december 2019) 3 months before exposure got tested for immigration reasons for his green card. And he is giving me his word that i was his only exposure beside his wife who is now pregnat he just found out that he would put his kods in harms way if he knew he was messing around with high risks. Im suppose to get called soon for my blood draw results and im freaking out so much please help me. Ps i do tend to bite my cheeks from anxiety... and when i went to planned parent hood they asked exposure and they said oh u cant get hiv from oral and then took the test and said if i was lying to them. Why would i lie about my exposure to themi wouldnt keep no information with something serious like this! Please help
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Hello guys i want to update yall!! I came back negative thanks so much to all of you!
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There is no need to update. Reread about the 40 and realize it won't happen in the next 40 of your life either.
That's great.  Appreciate your telling us and we're happy for you!
Remember going forward what the risks are for HIV and that in this case, you did not have one.  This should always help you remain rational.  If you still tend to try to make non risks into risks, then the issue is actually anxiety and treating that as a disorder can help.
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Thank you guys so much ill try and stay strong . Ill try and relax
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Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (semen, penis, maybe but not likely blood). No hiv worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. hiv prevention is straightforward since there are only 3 ways you can become infected, so next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself this QUESTION. "Did I do any of the 3?" Then after you say "No, I didn't" you will know that it's time to move on back to your happy life. For example in your current situation the answer would be NO, I DIDN'T because there was no unprotected penetrating anal or vaginal sex nor was there any use of a shared hollow needle used for injection, so obviously it is a NO risk.
I hope you can totally relax now and don't even bother testing again.
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Thank you so much i just pray and hope! People at the planned parent hood just said positive i had to deal with it. N then drew blood and never explain anything about false positives saying no these are accurate all the time. Ive been crying for days
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This is the main reason we discourage people from testing for HIV when they have not had a risk for HIV.  The risk of getting a false positive and spiraling into anxiety isn't worth it.

Your follow-up test will be negative since you weren't at risk for HIV.
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That he wouldn't put his wife at risk and impregnating her with out testing himself if he had sexual realtions with anyone else
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