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PLEASE HELP, sperm and bleeding hand.

Hello Everyone,

I really need some professional help and your help is much appreciated.
My hands are really really dry with a lot of red scratches cuts from the cold weather(I also have a dermatological skin condition where my skin is so dry that it opens and bleeds in different places of my body). They bleed and stop bleeding a lot during the day, depending if I touch them or rub them.
Im a gay male not out yet and a bit scared of getting sexual with men. I went to a bath house today (gay sauna), I usually don’t touch anyone because of my hands condition, I just like to walk around and watch people. I watched a guy masterbate, as soon as he ejaculated, he ejaculated on his hand and I have no idea why he touched my hand directly. I freaked out because I might be bleeding, I put the towel directly on my hand to see if there was blood, and yes a patch of dry skin was bleeding, basically my towel had a lot of small dots of blood on it. I washed my hand directly and that patch of dry skin kept on bleeding for 20 minutes.

The issue is once he ejaculated he had semen on his hand, and touched my BLEEDING hand skin directly, so his semen touched my blood.

I spoke to the man and found out that he is HIV positive, I made sure of this information through someone else there and indeed he is HIV positive. He was helpful and told me to go to the hosipital directly.
My friend is a nurse at a hospital and she says I need to go to the emergency room and get my situation checked and she told me to insist on take treatment (PEP – post exposure that’s what she called it). She told me because the towel did not have just one drop of blood it had a lot more, which means that my skin was open and actively bleeding.

I am REALLY WORRIED scared I feel numb.. please tell me whats my risk from this situation. What shall I do at the moment ? am I infected ?
Thanks a lot for all your work and help here,
Please someone with the correct knowledge try to answer me as soon as you can im so scared..
Thanks.
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Your sores were not bad enough for you to cover them. This means they are not the type of openings that would allow HIV infection. Apart from that, HIV isn't transmitted that way ((outside the body)). There may be people who say it is a risk. I would say it's not, and personally, I wouldn't even bother testing for this, let alone PEP.
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Thanks I REALLY appreciate your answer, im literally in pain so scared. But are you sure of your assessment ?(JUST TO CLARIFY AGAIN WHEN HE TOUCHED MY CUTS WITH HIS SPERM ON HIS FINGERS MY CUTS WERE ACTUALLY BLEEDING, DOES THAT CHANGE ANYTHING ?)
One final question, I was told by my friend (nurse), that usually my situation is assessed to be no risk because, its assumed that:
1) Hiv dies once outside the body (but she says that it can take from seconds to minutes and because he ejaculated and directly touched my hand, The virus can still be alive and able to infect)
2) She also said I have a risk because my hand didn’t just bleed 1 or 2 drops, there was more than  that. Hence there could be a transmission.
3) She also said usually its not confirmed if the man was positive or negative but since I was sure the guy was positive that puts me at a greater risk.

Im not saying she is correct, but if you can please clarify for me those points I would be so so thankful because at the moment I feel so scared and her information is scaring me more.
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Thanks I REALLY appreciate your answer, im literally in pain so scared. But are you sure of your assessment ?(JUST TO CLARIFY AGAIN WHEN HE TOUCHED MY CUTS WITH HIS SPERM ON HIS FINGERS MY CUTS WERE ACTUALLY BLEEDING, DOES THAT CHANGE ANYTHING ?)
One final question, I was told by my friend (nurse), that usually my situation is assessed to be no risk because, its assumed that:
1) Hiv dies once outside the body (but she says that it can take from seconds to minutes and because he ejaculated and directly touched my hand, The virus can still be alive and able to infect)
2) She also said I have a risk because my hand didn’t just bleed 1 or 2 drops, there was more than  that. Hence there could be a transmission.
3) She also said usually its not confirmed if the man was positive or negative but since I was sure the guy was positive that puts me at a greater risk.

Im not saying she is correct, but if you can please clarify for me those points I would be so so thankful because at the moment I feel so scared and her information is scaring me more.
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Hello people, I really need and  would appreciate more opinions.. I don't know what to do at the moment and I'm very scared... Thanks again..
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Hello people, I really need and  would appreciate more opinions.. I don't know what to do at the moment and I'm very scared... Thanks again..
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You're welcome.

"basically my towel had a lot of small dots of blood on it"

This is the type of wound you had at the time of exposure. Again, this wasn't a big enough wound or a big enough opening for the virus. Gaping wounds that need immediate medical attention are the kind that could pose a risk. A minute amount of semen that was first on the person's hand and then transferred to yours on a minor wound isn't going to cause transmission.

At the end of the day, you can take whatever action you deem necessary.
Despite the fact that there is a person known to be positive involved, in MY opinion you were not at risk.
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Thanks a lot for your help :))
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Guys hello, Can I please get another opinion please i really need it and all your help is much much appreicated.. thanks a lot..
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