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I am not a sexually active woman. But recently, since the past 2 months, I have sex with 3 people, out of which I am worried about one partner (guy) of my age  and after 4-5 meetings we had unprotected vaginal intercourse. I asked for the condom but his response was he does not need it a he is very much in control of his ability to control his ejaculation. I know I should have been careful, but, I just believed him because as I said, I am not a sexually active person and you can say I am a novice in these matters of insisting the partner to wear a condom.

He did not ejaculate for a very long time almost 1-2 hours and even when he did, it was very little and outside of my vagina.

After an hour of break, we resumed vaginal intercourse and this time he  did not ejaculate at all, at least not inside of me and in front of me! I also got my menstrual bleeding after 2 days!

This only happened once.

Later, I spoke to him over the phone about his HIV status, and he said that he is clear because of his hospitality industry standards that regularly get him tested for medical purposes. But, he also said that he had spent 6 yrs in Bahrain and had regular sex with a Philipino colleague in his job and later, with a US soldier (woman) who was posted in Bahrain in the US army base. This has got me worried.

Do you think I might have been exposed to the virus through intercourse with him?

How should I confront him to talk about this? What kind of questions to ask? I find him to be frank and honest most of the tme wth me because like myself, he does not have many friends and I m just one of the ver few he has but recently, a misunderstanding has disrupted our friendship.  

PLEASE HELP!






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3 months is conclusive. There are no test available that will give you a conclusive result earlier than 3 month.
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461503 tn?1212066010
Eventhoght your risk is slim, unprotecetd sex does place you in some degree of getting hiv or other std, my advice would be to get tested 6 weeks after the incident for a 95% accurate result and then at 3 months for a conclusive result.

Good luck
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173325 tn?1213936521
Diver speaks true and to add to it, the chances you got HIV are in the order of 1 in hundreds of thousands.  That he didn't *** inside you lowers the chances even further. Even if he had HIV the chances you contracted it from him are 1 in 1000...In the general population (non gay male, non injection drug user) about 1 in 1000 people have HIV.  

Right there you're at .000001 chance.  I don't care what people say. IMO everything IS a game of numbers.  You wouldn't walk out your door if there was a 1 in 100 chance you'd die if you did it.  But your chances of getting HIV from this encounter are less than if you had some sort of fatal accident today.

Test regularly if you're sexual active.  If you're extremely paranoid, get tested at 6 weeks.  You don't need to wait for 3 months.  Check the Dr's forums here for more test time information.
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You shouldnt get too worked up, foriegn workers do get tested and military personell are tested annualy. The chances this guy had HIV would be pretty low. But with that said it was still unprotected and status was not 100% confirmed, a test would be in good order, expect a negative result. :)
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366749 tn?1544695265
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Relax and calm down first. Probability of HIV transmission in a couple of unprotected eposodes is not too high. Not everyone gets infection as a result of such exposures limited to only two events.

If the mentioned sexual partners are the only females he has been in contact with, I am pretty sure that he might not have infection, because in Bahrian, work visa requirement includes regular medical check ups and the same goes for US army. His both partners can be considered from a very low risk group and probability of them being infected is very remote.

Normally people do not lie about their status when inquired and asked outside the charged environment of bedroom. If his job requirement also demand regular clinical monitoring, you can believe him.

Guilt is a prime element dominating your anxiety and stress. We are not angels, just ordinary human being, bound to commit mistakes. Key point is, we must learn from, and do not repeat them.

I am very sure that you did not pick up HIV from these exposures, however, it is always good to know your conclusive status after such events in life because it is fact that unprotected sex with anyone of unknown status is a risk, degree of the risk may vary but it is not zero.

While you should move on, back to your normal life, wait for the next three months (from the date of exposure) and get tested for HIV, to lay your fears to rest permanently and get a negative report very positively I am confident.Wish you all the best.

Please remember, never ever go for unprotected sex again with anyone outside your mutually committed monogamous relationship. Do not take verbal assurances, since HIV is not detectable by looking at faces or general health.

Best friend of a woman is not his boy friend, but a condom,,, Play safe, stay healthy. Good Luck







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Yes it's possible that you've been exposed. Get tested 3 months post exposure. Unless you have tested together always use condoms.
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I live close to Bahrain and I know for a fact that they do HIV test for every foreigner before he or she gets the final work permit.
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