Negative HIV test, but wife has rash

[cooldu9615]

I was told I have no risk and that my oraquick test was enough to give me a definitive answer.. but Now two years later my wife has these little what looks like rashes or hyperpigmentation from a bug bite or something else just below her Brest area. She’s going to a dermatologist in a week, I know symptoms don’t mean *hit when it comes to hiv.  Im just a little worried a rash popped up two years later and it’s kinda scaring me
Would a rash occur on its own this late?
Or does it just happen in the beginning if at all?

[Sara_MHModerator]

We wish you the best in moving past this as our members have stated accurately that this was not a risk for HIV.

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[cooldu9615]

Hey everyone, it’s been a long  25 months of being worried asking you guys for your wisdom and advice and eventually seeking therapy and following through every week by going and trying to beat this.  My therapist and I have decided That the only way She sees me letting go of this is getting a blood test done to see it with my own eyes and make my brain understand. Quite frankly I’m super nervous  and hope the result is negative like you all say even though my wife and I have many things going on basically at the same time. Whatever happens just wanted to thank you all for doing great things here and taking the time out of your lives for strangers you have never met. It’s much appreciated and i go for a test next Monday and I will share my results..

[mike_no]

It will inevitably be negative. Since you were never exposed to the virus. Keep focusing on the therapy.

[cooldu9615]

Appreciate the comment as Always mike but yet I’m still not convinced even after a home oraquick and condom use .
I hope for my sake your right trust me  and it’s all good.  Still extremely nervous but it’s prob the only way I will get past this and move on forever.

[mike_no]

You have done the right thing by considering therapy. It will help you over come your irrational fear, please understand that it is a progressive affair and you must keep seeing your therapist. Also, having faith in your therapist is very important, there is no point in second guessing information.

We have established that you were never at risk for HIV. Perhaps, any symptom that you speculate for your self or your wife is unspecific to HIV since you were never exposed to the virus. For anxiety related discussion you must post in the relevant forum. This is the best we can offer you from here.

We wish you the best.

[cooldu9615]

Ok thanks everyone, I’ll continue to do my best to overcome this fear.  It’s just such a sad way to live. Thanks for the words

[Chima7]

What did your therapist say? I'm assuming you've consulted with a therapist since you last posted, given that your risk was non-existent and your symptoms were all related to classic anxiety.

[cooldu9615]

She said “ everything points to negative as far as you know” your not a doctor so don’t play doctor and if you did give it to her you can’t Change that now anyway”.  Which I understand and I’m not really trying too.  I made her the appointment to get looked at, was just curious if I should test again to double check and if a rash occurs at all would it be early or late?

[Chima7]

What I'm trying to say is, you already know you were not exposed to HIV. Given that fact, of course there is no way that you could infect someone with a disease to which you were never exposed in the first place.

[cooldu9615]

I understand I’m having tough time and I’m on Lexapro as well and seeing someone every week and still having issues. It’s just scary to think maybe she has something cause of me and nothing is really promised even if I did use protection and took a test.  Having a hard time though, anyway it just sucks. I guess we will find out what the rash is in a week. Thanks for the response.

[cooldu9615]

Update my wife saw a dermatologist who said she had eczema a few spots and a dry scalp.  I also have a dry scalp at the same time as her and she’s never even had one before and it’s her second  child  though she is breastfeeding.  at this point I’m just kinda like is the coincidence or do we both have hiv and that’s why we both have it a the same time and even the baby had cradle cap as well and it’s been over two years but I’m really questioning the condom and negative oraquick test with both of us having to this.

[cooldu9615]

I’m very scared at this point and I’ve gone to therapy and I take anxiety meds but like it walks like a duck quacks like a duck it’s usually a duck.
She just randomly has dry scalp and so do I and her eczema is acting up and it’s just honestly too much.

[AnxiousNoMore]

No, you didn't get hiv since you had no exposure. That is a straightforward simple conclusion that you must stop wasting your time pretending is complicated just because 2 people have skin issues. Disease does not follow a schedule, otherwise no one would ever get any new health conditions. Therefore it is irrelevant that she never had skin issues before.

This is not a skin forum and you don't have hiv, so there is nothing that we can do to help with that.
Continue seeing the therapist because this is not an anxiety forum either and that forum will just tell you to continue with the therapy too. You need one on one discussions with that therapist and this forum can't provide that.