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Real risk or Anxiety

I have put myself at a possible risk twice.  First time was earlier this year.  Protected vaginal sex and oral with a Brazilian csw.  Tested 4th gen at 40 days.  Negative, but worried because I was short of cdc recommendation.  

2nd time, 32 days ago.  Protected sex (filled condom with water after)  but she used baby oil.  Worried this could have caused microscopic leaks. I removed the condom and finished via masturbation.   Not sure how I removed condom.  But worried about vaginal fluid on outside of condom could make it's way to my urethra.  Fears unfounded?  Going to test at 5 weeks because I cant handle the stress Anymore.  Had 1 day fever at 11 days after last event.  I was hungover and hit 99.7 oral, and 100.5 from ear.  Then had 2-3 days of diahrea a week later (although I had ice cream, but don't think lactose symptoms last that long)  and now at 30 days, I have a tiny ulcer inside my lip.    Advice?  
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You had no risk. Protected sex is not a risk for HIV infection. Baby oil does not cause microscopic holes, that is a myth. As long as you always use condoms, you'll avoid HIV.
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Thank you.  What do you think about me having vaginal fluid on my hands from the condom when I masturbated?
I don't think anything. It's not a risk. You have nothing to worry about with HIV.
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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is  protected and there is zero risk
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis. Only the head needs to be covered, so if that happened it is protected and there is zero risk.
3. sharing hollow needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. This HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk. Because of all the research statistics, doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
Someone coughed on your lips and you got a flu like billions of other neg people each year. There is nothing notable about that, other than your attempt to blow it up into an hiv theory despite no risk.
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