Risk from preformimg oral sex

[Houseoftherisingsun]

Hiya everyone ,
     Exactly 42 days ago I preformed oral sex on a man of unknown status . It lasted about 35 minutes on and off , I tasted a little bit of precum but he finished on my chest . So after about 2 weeks I began to experience boy aches that come and go and this scared me so I took a fourth generation rapid test at planned parenthood 28 days after the exposure . It was negative which was highly encouraging . But of course I couldn’t accept that result because I began to experience more intense body aches , it’s so bad I can’t sleep so I went to another clinic at 6 weeks , 42 days for an oraquick rapid finger prick which checks for antibodies only and that was negative as well , I know this is not conclusive so I’m still scared as I’m having body aches . I can’t quite understand what’s going on and the woman who did my test at the clinic kept saying planned parenthood doesn’t use a 4th gen rapid test even though I asked the woman at planned parenthood more than once what test they use and she informed me they use the 4th gen rapid test that looks for antigens , plus the woman kept saying the folks at planned parenthood don’t know what they are doing so basically she has frightened me more because I’m scared I have hiv now and I really can’t deal with this anxiety I feel like I’m dying . This is a horrible feeling so please give me your best advice ! Also I read a blog online called “ He gave me more than a bracelet “ in which a young woman claims to have contracted hiv from oral sex in Africa . She even gave info on meds and viral loads ..... So now I’m absolutely terrified . Thanks all !

[mike_no]

There is no point in aggravating this conversation further, it's not leading us anywhere. ANM puts his heart to help a lot of members here and his effort was to only help you.

You came here to seek answers and you have been already provided the assistance. Every one has a point of view. You like some, you leave some. There is no scope for personal attacks.

We wish you good luck.

[Houseoftherisingsun]

You are right , I apologize , I’m just very anxious and tired of feeling this way . Thank you .

[CurfewX]

Of the more than 70 million people who have ever been infected with HIV, only a handful have been thought to have been infected by giving oral sex.  If those are odds you wish to worry about, that is entirely your prerogative, but probably not a productive use of time.  

There was a sizeable study performed involving serodiscordant couples, who performed oral sex over a number of years, and by the end of the study, ZERO participants who were HIV-negative, and gave oral to someone HIV+, were infected with HIV.

Also, body aches alone would not have anything to do with HIV, and any symptoms of seroconversion would be long gone by now, if you had had them.

[Houseoftherisingsun]

Thank you , your answer is much warmer than AnxiousNoMore. I get you all may all get questions that are ridiculous and that’s probably frustrating but still I think it would be nice to answer with just a bit more compassion . Being panicky and having anxiety considerably reduces quality of life and I was just trying to get some reassurance . Thank you .

[AnxiousNoMore]

This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
You are best off to stop googling for death cold turkey if you want to relax and get back to your normal life,  because taking advice from someone blogging with no medical training is not scientific.

[Houseoftherisingsun]

Well you say “ no risk “ right ? Well than why does the cdc state it’s low risk and the clinic and planned parenthood also stated its “ low risk” so why do you say it’s “ no
Risk “ ? I’m sure there are people who have actually been infected by oral sex .

[AnxiousNoMore]

We rely on the opinion of expert docs and don't pay attention to other sites that you can locate or we will be here forever arguing. CDC uses theoretical risks that have never manifested in real life. How useful is that for the billions of people who have had sex and are trying to assess their risk?
But since "you are sure that there are people who have been infected by oral", I am not sure why  you came here asking for answers since you claim to know the answer already.