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Risk of HIV. So scared now.

Hello! Dear doctor in this forum. I’ll begin introducing myself and my situation as short and clear as possible. My name is Yusuke, a 22-year-old Japanese boy. 3 months ago I travelled to Colombia, the south American country and I hired a male tourist guide there. During the trip he was nice and friendly, and after the trip he asked me if I would like to try sex with him. I admit that I am bisexual and I’ve never tried a gay sex so I agreed. During the sex, I penetrated him with condom, which was only covering approximately 2/3 of my penis when I checked it after I ejaculated. This is my first worry. And the most worrying thing is that he’s put his penis on my anus, but I am sure that he didn’t penetrated it cause I hadn’t felt any pain or the least feeling like penetration. We did mutual blowjob to each other without condom. He is now working in Spain as massage worker and when I told him my worrying he told me that he held a card of health which is needed in Spain. However he also admitted that he had gained much money by doing this, which means he had a lot of gay sex before, but he insisted in that he had always used condom. I am still so scared and I regretted so much now. During these three months I haven’t got any symptoms, such as fever, flu-like symptoms or rush, etc. Will I have any risk? A million thanks to you!
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Condom protected intercourse is safe. The urethra needs to be covered and it was during your incident, that ensured your safety.

Also, the other things that you mentioned here doesn't put you at a risk for HIV transmission.

If you were penetrated in to your anus with out a condom, it is a risk. However, since you mentioned quite clearly that you didn't feel like you were being penetrated should mean you have nothing to worry.

I feel you are just worried because you are probably overanalyzing the fact that your partner had a lot of homosexual exposures and it is a risky behavior.

I feel you should focus on the fact that you never had unprotected sexual intercourse and that kept you safe. If you are unable to think rationally, you might want to reach out to a counselor for help in your area where you stay.
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Hi! Mike, thanks a lot for your answer, which did calm me down a lot. But I am still worried about the risk caused by giving oral sex to him, because I really don’t remember clearly my oral and dental conditions of that day. If there was tiny cuts or dental bleeding, will I be supposed to reconsider the risk? Still scared now, thousands of thanks for you!
In addition, because I am bisexual and I didn’t like to do the blowjob, so I just did it for like 10-20 seconds and I didn’t feel any flavour of genital secretion (but I am not sure if there’s some flavourless genital secretion). And he didn’t ejaculate in my month. Thanks a lot for your time!
NOTHING you did put you at risk for HIV.  

Sexually, the only activity a person should be concerned about is unprotected penetration - penis inside a vagina or anus.  Nothing else is an HIV concern.
Thank you so much! Your reply did help me a lot!
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