I've read a number of similar cases to mine, the answers to which have mostly put me at ease. But nevertheless, I'd like to describe my encounter so as to gauge my risk and perhaps mollify my anxiety.
My encounter: a promiscuous girl, unknown status. Vigorous unprotected oral sex for an hour (gave cunnilingus, received fellatio). In the act of cunnilingus, I injured the frenulum of my tongue, which remained sore/swollen for a few days. I don't think there was any bleeding, but there was quite possibly a minor cut. Brief protected sex with a condom (less than a minute). Anal play with just fingers.
I've read countless articles and payed out of pocket to receive the early-detection RNA test for HIV. I understand the risk of oral sex transmission is low to zero (differing opinions on the web), but I can hardly contain my anxiety. I have to wait a week to see my results, and I'm living every waking moment in fear and dread. Part of me thinks I may have wasted $100 because my risk is negligible; the other part of me is already (and perhaps irrationally) doing extensive research on what it like to live with HIV.
Am I stressing unnecessarily or do I have cause for alarm? I want to be able to trust a doctor's word that oral sex transmission is exceedingly rare or impossible, but when I read other claims that up to 10% of HIV transmissions occur orally, I can hardly sleep at night.
Can someone please clear this up for me? Thank you so much for your time.