Terrible Anxiety

[leftleg23]

While I was in Nairobi, Kenya, I got drunk and made the biggest mistake of my life.  Long story short, I had vaginal sex with a local.  She put a condom on me, and she said that “it’s a Durex”.  I was very drunk but I do remember her putting the condom on me and making sure it was on good.   I attempted to have sex, but could not ejaculate and for that matter could not maintain a full erection (I am glad it stayed on).  I soon tired and noticed that my pubic region had blood.  She said that she had just finished her period.  I panicked and walked over into the light and the condom did not appear to be broken.   But there was definitely blood all over my condom and pubic region.  I took the condom off and threw it into the toilet and tried to flush it, it did not go down because of the air in the tip.  I immediately jumped in the shower and washed.  I’m pretty sure I used soap, that part is hazy to me.  I passed out and in the morning she woke me with a hand job.  She placed another condom on and we tried again.  I could not get fully erect and didn’t ejaculate for the second time.  The finally when I took the condom off, it didn’t appear to be broken.  It was just because I was going limp.  I have had condoms break, and they have always broken in a “complete destruction” manner.  I showered again.  I came back to the bed and she gave me a hand job till I ejaculated.  
Fortunately she gave me her email address and in the past couple of days of panic I have emailed her several times.  My main questions were:
1. Has she been tested?  
2. Is she STD free?
3. HIV free?  
4. Were the condoms latex or polyurethane and not natural condoms  
5. Did the condoms break
She replied that they were latex Durex condoms, neither of them broke, she tested in August (around 30 to 60 days ago) and she is negative.  She reassured me that she is not sick and not to worry.
So the condoms appeared to me to be intact (both times), there was blood on my pubic region and condom.  I did not ejaculate; there was no contact without a condom.
I did not have not had any STI’s and I don’t not have any broken or a braised skin.
What is my risk?  Would I be able to tell if the condom had a small hole?  Could she be lying? I am freaking out.  It has been 4 days and I can’t sleep or eat.  Do I need testing and how do I break this to my family?
Please help shed some light during this dark time for me…

[freeman808]

Vance2335, Please would you know the condom broke if you didn't look at it?  If you just took it off with out looking at it?

[Vance2335]

when condoms break you see your bare penis and have to remove the condom from the ring at the base.

go buy a condom, put it on, then cut the tip off and masterbate and then you will know.

[leftleg23]

even if i wasnt fully erect, kind of soft?  It couldnt have a tear i couldnt see?  Im loosing my mind.  Please describe how you know condoms break, because im loosing it.

[raj93]

A condom break is CATASTROPHOC

Youn can realize it


You dont have an hiv concern

You dont need to test

USE CONDOMS for penetrative sex and you will remain hiv negative!!!!

[leftleg23]

So, the condom couldn't have a slight whole in it? When I looked at it it was from the top looking down and from the right.  When I saw the blood, my own blood ran cold and I immediately pulled the condom off, I immediately threw it in the toilet and showered.  I am freaking myself out because I have had condoms break and I know they look like a broken balloon.  I'm just wondering if it could have a different way of breaking than I am used too.  Does not being fully erect help preserve the integrity of the condom?

[hangon51]

1. Has she been tested?

Who knows? Who cares?

2. Is she STD free?

See above

3. HIV free?  

Same as above

4. Were the condoms latex or polyurethane and not natural condoms

Hard to miss a natural condom. Not as stretchy and kinda "weird" look and feel . They are more expensive and CSW workers don't use them...generally. Not likely at all.

5. Did the condoms break

I am not a clairvoyant but if they did you would have known...trust me!

Number 5 is all that counts. They didn't and so you had no risk.

I tend to agree with "teak" as testing will only fuel your anxiety.

Next thing you will be agonizing over the accuracy of the test.....

Forget about this incidence.

[Teak]

You never had an exposure and it is not recommended to test not even for peace of mind.

[Messy80]

If it gives u peace of mind go get tested ;)
That way you know for sure! I'd say u are safe as long as their wasn't blood on your penis or mouth etc..