Unprotected Anal Sex

[imonlyhuman]

A few days ago I had unprotected anal sex with my ex boyfriend (Im gay by the way). I am 1000% sure of my negative status; and he told me he had recently been tested with his ex boyfriend (they broke up a couple weeks ago) and was negative. Anywho I know him well; but I really can't take his word as the gospel. It lasted about 15 minutes; I was the bottom; he did not ejaculate inside of me (im very sure of this); but his penis is large and there was a lot of pain involved (sorry for being graphic). I plan to get tested in about a month or so. I figure its pretty pointless to do it any sooner than that. What are the chances (if indeed he was HIV positive) that I could have caught it during one sexual encounter? How worried should I be?

[imonlyhuman]

Thanks for your response. I neglected to mention that the sex did begin with a condom, but it broke and stupidly we continued. We both had way too much to drink. I do regret this and I will be more mindful in the future trust me. Now the waiting game begins. I will try to stay calm.

[nursegirl6572]

To be quite frank....HIV is still the most prevalent amongst men who have sex with other men...and anal sex (bottom especially) remains the highest risk factor.

If you continue to have unprotected anal sex...there is a good chance that HIV is in your future.  You would be wise to adopt a CONDOM only policy for each and EVERY epsiode of anal sex.  Unless you are in a committed relationship where you and your partner have been tested together.

Get tested at 3 months post the exposure for a conclusive result, and really think hard about the risks you're taking.

[jstupid]

The chances are pretty low, especially when he says he is negative.usually people dont lie about their status. but since you had a risk (unprotected anal) you should take the test. 6-8 weeks very reassuring and not likely to change, but follow up with a 3 months test for conclusive. good luck!