WORRIED.....POTENTIAL TRANSMISSION??

[worriedboy251]

Hi - My question is regarding HIV transmission. Two weeks ago I had a sexual encounter with another male. There was no sexual intercourse, just oral sex, rimming, and other associated fourplay.

I know HIV can be transmitted through semen and precum etc. On some occasions during this encounter my partners penis was rubbing near and against my anus. The reason this worries me is because I have hemroids that always seem to bother me. They are like little cuts and sometimes bleed when using the washroom etc.
This has been an issue long before this sexual encounter, but when thinking about the scenario of his penis being around my anus concerns me.  

He also put his finger in my anus as well.

I also remember having a slit on my upper lip from the cold weather. Like my lips were a little chapped.Seamen also got near my eye. Is the eye, a chapped lip, or an anal region with an abrasion likely for transmission even without having anal intercourse?

In all, I guess my question is...is it likely that I could have gotten HIV from this encounter? Either by way of the chapped/cut on my lips...or his penis rubbing near my anus which also had abrasions from hemroids?

I asked him when he was last tested and he said 3 months ago and was negative for HIV. He also said he doesn't participate in unprotected sex...but I don't know him very well and who knows...he could be lying.

Since that encounter (two weeks ago) I noticed a dull headache the last 3 days that I can't seem to shake, and a canker sore in my mouth. I read online these are both signs of HIV transmission in some cases.

I'm not very experienced sexually so the only information I get is from what I read online. I'm terrified that I now have HIV. I can't get tested yet because you are suppose to wait three months.

Does my sexual experience sound like a likely scenario for HIV transmission?

Thanks!

[Chancej]

You can test at 4-6 weeks for peace of mind, and then just a follow up at 3 months to confirm those results. Although the rule of thumb on here seems to be, oral sex does not warrant testing.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Ridiculous idea to test. If he thought he was pregnant would you recommend he test for male pregnancy?

[Chancej]

No because that is ridiculous, ludacris, and impossible. Just because the volunteers on here have a hard time believing that oral sex still poses a possible, or theoritcal risk, doesn't mean it CAN NOT happen. The MAIN ways a person gets HIV is unprotected, anal and Vaginal sex, but there is no one proven study that says it CAN NOT happen through oral sex. You will not find a doctor or clinic that will say "oh no oral sex isn't a risk for hiv transmission just other stds". The few documented cases that are out there, and there is a only a very limited number, still suggests that it is absolutely possible (although unlikely) to transmit HIV through oral. Until the day when the studies have proven that is IMPOSSIBLE, then I will have to stick with the CDC and the "few" documented cases, and say it's an EXTREMLY low risk activity. Even more so, I only suggested testing for their peace of mind. Not because I expected them to be HIV+. I'm in the same boat as this person, I believe I'm at risk (although very low) and followed through with all the testing quite lines laid out by the CDC

[AnxiousNoMore]

Zero chance from air contact, which is every form of contact other than unprotected oral (which is also no risk beause air and saliva are present which both inactivate HIV) anal or vaginal. Penetrating anal or vaginal are the only sex risks but touching is zero risk otherwise everyone in America would be infected.
Don't waste your time testing.

[AnxiousNoMore]

Cankers and headaches prove nothing, btw so no one pays attention to symptoms.