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What is the risk of HIV from one vaginal exposure?
Hello,
I am a female and had vaginal sex which I thought was protected. Turns out that my partner reused a condom he had taken off minutes prior. There was no ejaculation however its impossible to know if the condom was put back on the same way or inside out. Now I'm have bad back and neck pain as well as cramping and a UTI. I know I need to be tested again at 3 month mark but just wondering if this sounds like it could be ars or what my real risk may have been?
Thanks.
I am a female and had vaginal sex which I thought was protected. Turns out that my partner reused a condom he had taken off minutes prior. There was no ejaculation however its impossible to know if the condom was put back on the same way or inside out. Now I'm have bad back and neck pain as well as cramping and a UTI. I know I need to be tested again at 3 month mark but just wondering if this sounds like it could be ars or what my real risk may have been?
Thanks.
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Usage of condom ensured that you aren't exposed to HIV. It does not matter which side was worn for usage, as long as there was a barrier, there was no exposure.
For questions specific to other STIs please post in relevant forum. No risk for HIV.
For questions specific to other STIs please post in relevant forum. No risk for HIV.
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Likely most of those symptoms are just from worrying and tensing up, then thinking a disease made an ache develop. No reason to test once, and definitely don't spend any more time thinking about hiv which you can't have.
Likely most of those symptoms are just from worrying and tensing up, then thinking a disease made an ache develop. No reason to test once, and definitely don't spend any more time thinking about hiv which you can't have.
Thank you both for responding. @mike_no, are you sure that if a condom was used once and taken off then turned inside out and used again, there would be no exposure? Couldn't the pre seminal fluids have been on the inside before it was turned inside out? And if so, doesn't that mean there could have been an exposure? Or would the spermicide inside the condom have killed anything that was initially inside the 1st time? I hope I'm over reacting. Thanks again for your opinions.
Your situation involves personal contact with an object in air (his fluids, someone else's fluids, hands, etc. which is not a risk for hiv.). No hiv worries, because you can't get hiv from personal contact except unprotected penetrating vaginal or anal, neither of which you did and you didn't share hollow needles to inject with which is the only other way to acquire hiv. Analysis of large numbers of infected people over the 40 years of hiv history has proven that people don't get hiv in the way you are worried is a risk.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. You have had a few questions about hiv (such as this one https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/My-3-year-old-ate-food-with-blood-on-it-Worried-about-HIV-risk-/show/3047683) so should have known the only 3 by now.
Next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself if you did any of the 3, then after you say "Nope, I didn't" then it's time to move on back to your happy life. Perhaps therapy would be a good idea to try to end all this fear about non-events.
HIV is a fragile virus in air or saliva and is effectively instantly dead in either air or saliva so the worst that could happen is dead virus rubbed you, and obviously anything which is dead cannot live again so you are good. Blood and cuts would not be relevant in your situation since the hiv has become effectively dead, so you don't have to worry about them to be sure that you are safe.
There is no reason for a person to test when they are safe. The advice took into consideration that the other person might be positive, so move on and enjoy life instead of thinking about this non-event. You have had a few questions about hiv (such as this one https://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV-Prevention/My-3-year-old-ate-food-with-blood-on-it-Worried-about-HIV-risk-/show/3047683) so should have known the only 3 by now.
Next time you wonder if you had a risk, ask yourself if you did any of the 3, then after you say "Nope, I didn't" then it's time to move on back to your happy life. Perhaps therapy would be a good idea to try to end all this fear about non-events.
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@anxiousnomore Thank you soooo much!! I appreciate your thorough explanation. I'm going to test anyway for my own sanity but I now feel more confident that it will be negative! Thanks again.
Reread about 40 because no one will get it this way in the next 40 years of your life either. Your only risk is Covid because it is not fragile, so you have priorities mixed up.
Hello Again,
Today, he admitted to actually taking the condom off without my knowledge. He claims it was just for a few minutes but now I'm really scared to death! I asked him to test and ofcourse he says he will but now he's not responding or answering my calls. At this point, I don't know what I expect you all to say but I needed to tell someone what's going on and I don't really have anyone else I can talk to. I'm so scared right now.
Today, he admitted to actually taking the condom off without my knowledge. He claims it was just for a few minutes but now I'm really scared to death! I asked him to test and ofcourse he says he will but now he's not responding or answering my calls. At this point, I don't know what I expect you all to say but I needed to tell someone what's going on and I don't really have anyone else I can talk to. I'm so scared right now.
You can take a duo test after 4 weeks for a conclusive result. I presume your last post meant that he took the condom off and continued vaginal sex with it off then put if back on. If so, you had a risk and can test after 4 weeks. Most people are not positive so try not to worry about his status until you can test.
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Ok. It was more than 4 weeks ago now. I plan to test. Just have to get myself together. I've been crying all day and I'm not even sure if I was infected. Once I calm down, I'll take care of it. Over the years, I've had some very unrealistic unwarranted fears of this virus but this one is real and I'm just not ready to face it today. Thank you for responding
Just test asap and you will feel a lot better. It is purposeless to procrastinate and live in agony, because there is nothing to think about since only a test can provide an answer.
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