You never had a risk. I really feel you shouldn't have put yourself through this testing frenzy, this is an aspect of obsessive behavior. You should seek help for anxiety, that would have made things easier for you.
You have spent a lot of time on the internet reading out information, now the whole 'what if' and 'why not' is prevailing in your mind.
Next in line is posting series of negative results and then either living in denial of those results or celebration with the whoo hoos!
These are stages of HIV OCD, it is a classic pattern. I must have seen that drill at least five thousand time being on this forum. Search the archives here in the forum, you are exactly where so many worried wells have been, HIV is not your problem. OCD is.
You definitely are not asking questions for any education purpose, it'only fodder for your anxiousness. I will go ahead and address your question trying to ease your anxiety. However, the fact remains intact that no question you ask about testing is important to your scenario because you did not have a risk.
Some websites and professionals recommended testing out to 3 months because they are still giving out outdated information. A 6 weeks negative on a standard AB and a 4 weeks negative on a duo AB/AG is conclusive.
People that aquire the virus seroconvert between 1-3 weeks days, a week following sero-conversion detectable amount of anti-bodies would be almost always present i.e at 28 days. Keeping a buffer for 2 more weeks for slow sero conversion perse, a test result for a standard antibody test at 42 days should be conclusive.
As stated by others, you were never at a risk. Let's assume she was infected and during this episode some fluid came in contact with the urethra in the fashion you mention, it would still posses no risk as the virus would be rendered inactive the moment it came in contact with the environment.
You would be only at a risk if there was proper vaginal penetration, as the viral transmission needs that scenario. You didn't need to test. Please educate your self about HIV transmission and move on.
1. Ignore ur symptoms as hiv is not diagnosed based on one
2. Oral sex is no risk
It must be full penetrative sex to pose a risk
3. If u worry so much, go get a test. Although it is not necessary, but it can calm u down
Just so I'm better educated and others will read this post. Can you clarify why it is not a risk by chance?
This answers all your HIV questions and if you think of any others, then you can get the answer if you just reread about the 3.
You had no risk for HIV so a test would be a waste of time.
HIV is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with. Knowing these 3 are all you need to know to protect yourself against HIV. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.