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hi I met a Filipino  women on dating site in Dubai . she is a women with grown up children with unknown HIV status . we ended up having sex .

what worries me that we have sex around 4 times in a night . And  every time i ejaculated there was blood on the condom  and shaft of my penis where the condom does not go . there was blood on my lower abdomen also possibly from condom touching it while i was laid down .

i asked her she said she is on her periods .  although i was involved in vaginal protected sex but the site of blood on condom every time i did sex puts me in lot of worry .

i removed condom from my penis every time safely i could but never knows if blood touched my penis urethra while removing condom or while during intercourse as i touched my penis over condom also many times while intercourse .  

apart from this there was heavy open mouthed kissing with tongue action involved , i bled from my gums sometimes and have dental cavities also .

Am i  at risk ? is it low / high or moderate .

do i need testing ?

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This answers all of your HIV questions, and if you can think of any more just reread about the 3. You had zero risk therefore  testing is irrelevant to your situation because you had zero risk. HIV is a fragile virus, which is instantly inactivated in air and also in saliva which means it is effectively dead so it can't infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. It doesn't matter if you and they were actively bleeding or had cuts at the time either because the HIV is effectively dead.  
Only 3 adult risks are the following:
1. unprotected penetrating vaginal with a penis
2. unprotected penetrating anal sex with a penis
3. sharing needles that you inject with.
The only way to get HIV is if you did one of the 3. The situation you describe is a long way from any of these 3.
Even with blood, lactation, cuts, rashes, burns, etc the air or the saliva does not allow inactivated virus to infect from touching, external rubbing or oral activities. Doctors have calculated the risk from what you describe to be less than that of being hit by a meteor, therefore no one will get HIV from what you did in the next 40 years of your life either. The above HIV science is 40 years old and very well established, so no detail that you can add to your encounter will change it from zero risk.
If you didn't have one of the 3 then you are just worrying about your own hiv theory - which is unrealistic for you to think that can become reality - so you should move on back to your happy life instead.
You can't get hiv when you used a condom.
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If the urethra was protected with a condom there is no risk to worry about.

It is not logical to think that blood can creep in to your urethra somehow.

Also, you start being irrational from the point where you 'assume' that your partner is HIV positive.

I second ANM, you had no risk.  You do not need to test. Please move on.
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