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can I move on? I'm terrified.

Hey, just wanted to thank everybody in advance for taking the time to look over this post.

I had a very high risk exposure (unprotected anal receptive) with a man I met online. I cannot believe I did this and I know how incredibly stupid it was. The sex must have lasted 5 minutes no longer than 10. He told me he had a wife and was negative. I can't believe I listened. I cannot go though this mental torment anymore and I just keep bottling it all in since I have no one to discuss this with. I was tested at 3 weeks for gonorrhea and clamydia which came back neg. 4 weeks I had a blood test for syphilis, urine test for gonorrhea/clamydia and poc test for hiv. All came back negative. 6 weeks I had a hiv "duo" or "combi" test, which tests for the antigen and antibodies. This also came back negative. I am now at the 9 week mark, I went to get tested yesterday again but was refused since I live in canada and do not pay for the tests. They also do not now the extent of my exposure. I was told to comw back at the 3 month mark to get my conclusive test. I know most people would have tested positive by now, in between 95 - 99% . Would this test be considered conclusive despite my high risk scenario? I have extreme guilt, anxiety, depression over all of this as I have a wife and she is the love of my life. I messed my whole life up in 5 minutes. I'm having very dark thoughts, I love her o so much and am having a hard time functioning. I cannot take this mental torment anymore. Is this 6 weeks duo test conclusive in combination with my 4 week poc test? Am I ok to have unprotected sex with my wife? I'm so confused and distraught over this whole ordeal I cannot function anymore.  Please help.
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Hi, I'm not an HIV expert but I was informed  by doctors I consulted with (when I had a previous scare and had to undergo early testing) that a duo combination test performed from the 4 week mark is considered final and fully conclusive. Please have a look at the responses given by doctors on these thread http://www.medhelp.org/posts/HIV---International/Hiv-duo-test-negative-at-6-weeks/show/2210200

http://www.freedomhealth.co.uk/forum/f6/hiv-fear-exposure-symptoms-duo-test-42-days-9737/
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Thank you for your prompt response sultan284! Very kind of you to be contributing to this forum and helping all of us confused/scared individuals. The threads that you posted have helped me calm down a little bit and are very reassuring. Despite my high risk exposure would it be safe to rule out hiv at this point? I am young, healthy and do not have any immunodeficiency diseases. I am also not on any medication. Can I have unprotected sex with my wife? Also, I started getting ars symptoms just after my 4 week poc test. They remained strong until 2.5 weeks later. If i was seroconverting, would my 6 week duo test have tested positive? I will never put myself in a situation like this again. I feel great hatred towards myself for this.
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My symptoms consisted of extreme fatigue, swollen lymphnodes in neck, stiff neck, oral thrush/white coating on tongue, loss of appetite, weight loss and very small rash.
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I'm aware that you are not an hiv specialist, more asking for your personal opinion. Thanks again.
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Would mean a great deal to me if I could get your expert opinion on this. Struggling with anxiety after this event and your opinion on this matter would dramatically decrease my anxiety. It's crippling me. Thanks in advance doctor.
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Your negative DUO test at 6 weeks confirms you are negative.  These tests are very sensitive, and you can relax and move on with your life.
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Thanks sultan284! I have received  and responded to your message. Thank you SO much. :)
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Thank you for the post curfewX! Really means alot.
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