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[jjjj17]

I have been having chronic fatigue for the last two weeks now, and i had unprotected sex about 6 week ago. I feel so tired that i actally just layed on the couch for two days straight. I have no motivation to do the things i used to think were very important, like going to class and making good grades. I actually woke up one morning and just decided that i wasn't going to show up for an important test in  one of my classes--something i would never normally do. My joints ache and so do my arm muscles. All of the pain is primarily in my arms. I also noticed one night that the palms of my hands had sort of a blotchy rash, but it was gone by morning. The vains along the inside of my elbow look more green and bigger than before too. But again, this is only sometimes, usually at night. I feel the worse in the morning and at night. I just want to be happy again, and now i don't know if i ever will be again, because i can't think of any thing else that could be causing my symptoms but HIV.  I also got a cold sore on the corner of my lip. I have had this before, and i know that stress can trigger it, but could this also be a sign? I'm too scared to get tested, because i could have given hiv to my current boyfriend (who I know to be neg.). So I guess my question is: Am I damned to hell or is there any hope of me not having hiv?

[jjjj17]

I feel as though i might have been  at risk for hiv, because i asked the person i had unprotected sex with if he had ever been tested and he said he had been, but it was 2 years ago. He also acted like he knew nothing about HIV and i remember him commenting that he didn't like wearing condoms,and that really scares me because that might mean that he could have had unprotected sex with multiple partners. I really started to worry when I found out that he was a "man-*****" and had slept with two other girls from my work within a short time period.
Also when i asked him he had ever been tested the first time in a text message, he dodged the question, and texted back "y? I'm good." What the hell does that mean anyway??
And i know that i don't have the flu because i don't have a fever or a cough or anything. I don't feel SICK, I just feel tired and weak and stressed, with the occasional headache.
Thanks, for trying to make me feel better guys (it's nice to finally tell someone what i am going through), but i really don't see what else could be causing all  these symptoms. I'm going to go to the doctor's tomorrow, but i know that it is too early to tell for sure. I'm crossing my fingers though...

[nonbeliever]

wouldnt it be better to know what you are dealing with. did you have a risk for hiv that you know for sure? stress and depression can do the symptoms that you describe, my suggestion find a place to do a rapid test , 20 min and you can feel like a new person.

[regularjoey]

This sounds much more like flu/mono to me than HIV.
A negative HIV test result will ease your mind.  Why not get it done?