Condom failure

[christianbrown]

Hello, how will i know if the condom failed as a bottom. Im very scared that the condom broke and i missed it. After sex i asked the guy and looked at it from a distance as i believed this was enough at the time. But now im scared he lied. As maybe he was tryingbto pass something, it was dark, and he didnt have his own condoms. And now im a month later and i feel like im having most of the symptoms, i just started getting minor nights sweats, my neck still feels like im being choked. I have one swollen tonsil and the infection seems to slowly be taking over my throat. I dont have a fever yet. (Knock on wood) im just all around terrified i have to test monday, im so scared because my symptoms have convinced me, i have NEVER EVER felt this way or this type of sickness. I just dont know what to do,i mightvhave it and i used a condom and did my best to protect myself. I feel like my life is over

[Sara_MHModerator]

Your question has been fully answered in this and your other threads that you did not have a risk for HIV from condom protected sex.  

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[christianbrown]

Honestly thats all easy to say when its not ur health thats being questioned. Bc its one thing to think u have something then also have a potential setup to have it and the symptoms to match. I mean can u guys understand why im so scared. My whole everything is at risk and theres no way around that. I will follow up with my results next week please pray for me ive already went through enough pain this is the last thing i need

[laxus2012]

this isn't a forum for religion so praying isn't necessary. and it's only easy for us to say because it's true. you're also just assume I haven't been worried about HIV and in your same shoes, convinced i had it, felt symptoms, couldn't sleep, thought i was going to lose my wife and my life was over.  i was completely wrong. i came here to ask about my risk but didn't believe anyone at first. but i read more and more from the experts and I learned. you're anxious, and of you do happen to have a cold or something else, then thats the extent of it. but, you dont have HIV.

[christianbrown]

Yea i know im anxious because i jumped from little holes in the condom to now the condom being broken and me not knowing. Which is now literally what i feel even tho it looked intact. I feel like now there couldve been a tear on the side and that its going to be just my luck. How did u get through your tough time because i have barely spoke to anyone in a hole month im so terrified all i do all day is look at forums

[christianbrown]

Everyday feels literally like a lifetime

[AnxiousNoMore]

No one can provide therapy from here, so your inability to accept the science and you are changing the events you originally listed means you will continue to suffer until you can find a mental health professional. The first step to peace is to stop googling for death, but you won't even take that step, so you are prolonging the agony through your actions.

[christianbrown]

If my symptoms are true symptoms would the rapid antibody test be able to pick it up at 29 days?

[AnxiousNoMore]

Your anxiety is a bit of a mental illness at this point so maybe you can join a support group or read a book about HIV phobia. if you really have a throat infection then you need to see a doc because serious problems can develop, instead of wasting your time creating HIV theories that no one will believe.
Below  was previous advice.
"You are saying you don't think you can do a doc's job, however you have ignored all the science advice given previously which means you are trying to do a doc's job.  I am not sure why you are asking the same thing as earlier here, since you didn't believe anything you were told the first time"

[laxus2012]

you were never at risk, you do not need to keep making threads for the same non exposure.

[christianbrown]

Ok i understand that, but look at the situation im in 50% of people tell me oh ur fine and dont worry, other 50% say icould be at risk, and the only way il know whose right is to test. And the symptoms im having really have me worried, thats why i just want a yes or no answer. If i am having symptoms would the rapid antibody test be able to pick that up after its been 29 days. Think about it this hole month everyday i wake up and look at this forum and other forums im a wreck the only thing that can really help me is a test and i pray to God its negative.

[laxus2012]

we are looking at the situation, multiple times. stop reading so much misinformation and listen to what we are telling you.  you already have your answer, zero risk. there is nothing more to be said.

[AnxiousNoMore]

If you insist on Googling for death, you can find someone who will tell you that you can die from anything that you can think of doing in the next 10 minutes. Is that a realistic way to live your life?
You can die from getting E Coli after any meal or get cancer any day but you don't spend your life testing after each meal or doing daily imaging, so your priorities are mixed up when you focus on something that can't even happen.

[Chima7]

We've been through this in your other posts. You had no risk because you used a condom. Just go see a doctor and get a proper diagnosis. Why are you so afraid to go see a doctor?

[christianbrown]

Im not afraid to see a dr, i have no insurance. All i can do is test. And now im just starting to feel like the guy lied about the condom because why do i have all thesee symptoms that ive never had before. I just hope that im fine because i dont know what to do at this point