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Would you continue dating a inactive hepatitis B carrier who had sex with you?
We had sex many times over 6 months. We used condoms (for avoiding pregnancy) but i did penetrate without a condom at the start of sex and she didn't say anything. I trusted her because we grew up together. She said her viral load is undetected and Hbeag negative/Hbeab positive so she KNOWS she is NOT infectious AT ALL. She claims her doctor verbally told her she is not infectious and uses the excuse that her dad didn't get it from her mum. She never bothered to find out if i'm vaccinated (luckily i am). She told me after 7 months about her hepatitis b. She said she didn't need to tell me as its not a big thing. She may be scared but isnt 6 months too long to hide that info and shouldnt i know before sex.
No not at all
I can not trust a person like that for lifetime
Seven months? Damn bro that's a long time to hide
If it was me I would trust her only if she told me before sex
Good luck man
I can not trust a person like that for lifetime
Seven months? Damn bro that's a long time to hide
If it was me I would trust her only if she told me before sex
Good luck man
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She had met her hep b doctor for yearly tests after 2 months into our relationship. This was before we had sex. At that time she told me she was going to the doctors for her parents general tests. After this is when we started having sex, without my knowledge about anything ofcourse. Now SHE CLAIMS she knew/knows she isnt infectious at all, as her professional hep b doctor told her that 'verbally' and thats why she had sex without letting me know beforehand! She is an inactive carrier of hep b since birth and found out about this 4 years ago and has been monitering it since then. Her sister is active so she knows all about the condition and its risks etc. Now what do you think mate?
Even if she is not infectious would you trust her? Or you would only trust her if she told you before sex wether she is infectious or not.
And 6/7 months too long?
Would you still leave her?
Thank you
Even if she is not infectious would you trust her? Or you would only trust her if she told you before sex wether she is infectious or not.
And 6/7 months too long?
Would you still leave her?
Thank you
Yeah i would leave her bro
For me to come out clean is very important
its not what she knows its what you should know
how old are you?
For me to come out clean is very important
its not what she knows its what you should know
how old are you?
Exactly i agree - "For me to come out clean is very important
its not what she knows its what you should know"
Im 23.
I mean she called me her 'soul mate', lost her virginity to me (if she was comfortable to do that then why not comfortable to reveal her hep b???), wanted to meet my parents ALL before telling me about her inactive hep b carrier status. What do her intentions seem like from that?
its not what she knows its what you should know"
Im 23.
I mean she called me her 'soul mate', lost her virginity to me (if she was comfortable to do that then why not comfortable to reveal her hep b???), wanted to meet my parents ALL before telling me about her inactive hep b carrier status. What do her intentions seem like from that?
I agree to this - For me to come out clean is very important
its not what she knows its what you should know"
Im 23.
She told me i'm her 'soul mate', wanted to meet my parents, talked about a very distant future (marriage), lost her virginity to me ALL before revealing her hep b. How could she be ready enough to loose her virginity to me in months dating but not able to tell me about her hep for up to 6 months?? She was hooking me to the line first? she wanted to make sure im committed before telling me so i find it very difficult?
Where you from?
its not what she knows its what you should know"
Im 23.
She told me i'm her 'soul mate', wanted to meet my parents, talked about a very distant future (marriage), lost her virginity to me ALL before revealing her hep b. How could she be ready enough to loose her virginity to me in months dating but not able to tell me about her hep for up to 6 months?? She was hooking me to the line first? she wanted to make sure im committed before telling me so i find it very difficult?
Where you from?
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Why risk it. Your kids will be infected so no reason to put yourself through it unless your a fool. And that true love bull, don't buy into it. You ll love again, TRUST ME!!!
Try asking this question to non hbv people. Just being trustful
Try asking this question to non hbv people. Just being trustful
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Kids can not get infected if they get vaccinations at birth!!!
BUT YES i understand what you are saying!
APART from kids getting infected (which can be prevented) what are your other reasons for saying i should leave her??
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Thank you
BUT YES i understand what you are saying!
APART from kids getting infected (which can be prevented) what are your other reasons for saying i should leave her??
Please reply
Thank you
My ex did something similar...what a *****
It's not love it's an emotional trap my friend
Leave.. its hard but you'll be fine trust me
It's not love it's an emotional trap my friend
Leave.. its hard but you'll be fine trust me
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Thank you for your reply. I can imagine.
What was her issue and why did you leave? what happened? if you dont mind sharing. I do feel im in a emotional mind**** right now.
What was her issue and why did you leave? what happened? if you dont mind sharing. I do feel im in a emotional mind**** right now.
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Why don t you take the vaccine ?? It s so hard to do it? Did you checked your hbsAb levels? Maybe you are already protected. I had sex with my gf 5 years without condoms( i didn t knew im infected) and she tested and she was immune to virus, we took another 3 shots of vaccine and everythink is fine. If you have doubts, it s clear you don t love her, maybe it s better to go, because probably all your life will think at this... this is my opinion.
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Well, i see you already got the vaccine. Skip first row then.
You didnt know you are infected!! My girlfriend knew she is an inactive carrier since 4 years. we started dating since february 2017 and and she didnt tell me till august 2017!!! You see the difference? Now what do you say?
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Look up. I commented on your answer.
I wrote this above..check and reply there..
"I agree to this - For me to come out clean is very important
its not what she knows its what you should know"
Im 23.
She told me i'm her 'soul mate', wanted to meet my parents, talked about a very distant future (marriage), lost her virginity to me ALL before revealing her hep b. How could she be ready enough to loose her virginity to me in months dating but not able to tell me about her hep for up to 6 months?? She was hooking me to the line first? she wanted to make sure im committed before telling me so i find it very difficult?
Where you from?"
"I agree to this - For me to come out clean is very important
its not what she knows its what you should know"
Im 23.
She told me i'm her 'soul mate', wanted to meet my parents, talked about a very distant future (marriage), lost her virginity to me ALL before revealing her hep b. How could she be ready enough to loose her virginity to me in months dating but not able to tell me about her hep for up to 6 months?? She was hooking me to the line first? she wanted to make sure im committed before telling me so i find it very difficult?
Where you from?"
23 bro u have long life ahead of u . I would not give up my best years of life for someone who does not come out clean
I agree to finghb this is not love looks like she has taken u for emotional ride
I agree to finghb this is not love looks like she has taken u for emotional ride
I don't know who is more selfish, there are many thing I don't tell people, doesn't mean I am lying. Instead of whine about this, you have a choice to leave to stay, but a true love is about caring. I am the guilty one myself, seek for long term health concerns and starting thinking about life expectancy and how to deal with medical issues arises due to this virus in the next few decades, if not, you are not the one for her.
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If you dont tell RANDOM PEOPLE its fine. If you dont tell someone you are dating for 6 months you are selfish. You are basing a relationship on secrets and sometimes keeping secrets is equivalent to lying depending on their nature and what effect they can have on the other person. It is NOT about wether i can deal with her virus or not, it IS about me not being given an option 2 months in to our relationship to decide what i want, protect myself or make decisions for MYSELF. How am i whining when i loved someone open heartedly without withholding anything form them only to find out that they were keeping such a big secret. How can you make someone so committed before telling them?
My friend if you do that to a potential partner youre going to end up alone or your partner is going to have issues with you forever. If you have such secrets as this one and you dont want to tell a potential life partner before he/she gets committed THEN JUST DECIDE TO BE ALONE FOREVER.
My friend if you do that to a potential partner youre going to end up alone or your partner is going to have issues with you forever. If you have such secrets as this one and you dont want to tell a potential life partner before he/she gets committed THEN JUST DECIDE TO BE ALONE FOREVER.
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