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Should I cancel the wedding?

While taking premarital tests, we discovered that my fiancée is heb b positive. I love her very much and want to marry her. She currently shows no sign of infection but if I don't want to be blinded by love into taking a decision I may later regret

We have not been having sex because we consider premarital sex to be fornication.

I am hbsag negative.
I am undergoing vaccination currently. I just took my first dose. what is the risk of me contracting the virus after vaccination. She'll be my wife and so do not intend to use condom with her during sex.

please help me make an informed decision. Can I still contract the virus from her? What about our future kids?

Should I just let her go, i.e discontinue the courtship?

Comments and experiences will be appreciated.

I am new here and I've joined this excellent place for this purpose.

Thank you.
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My husband got vaccinated.  He developed immunity and he will not get infected in the future.  The first two vaccination shots should help you develop immunity and the third shot is for longevity.

As for your future kids, its not 100% that they will be safe...your wife can take medication to reduce her odds of infecting your future baby during pregnancy and after your baby is born, they will get a shot of hbig and their first dose of vaccination. The odds of your baby being hep B free is very good with the hbig and vaccination. From what my doctors told me, your baby has a 85% chance of being safe with hbig and vaccination alone, even higher if your wife gets on medication during third trimester to reduce her viral load.  My pediatrician said he has never encountered a baby that was vaccinated that got infected so that's reassuring and he's been a doctor for 20+ years (and I live in a country where 1 in 10 people are hep b carriers).

My baby was checked at 5 months to see if she has the virus and she does not...she developed antibodies so she is safe. We will check her again at 1 year just to be certain.

As for staying with your fiancée, its your call.  If you get vaccinated and develop antibodies, there should be no worry about you contracting the virus. My husband stayed with me and we are happy and have a beautiful healthy baby.
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16584782 tn?1449394404
CONGRATS!!! I'm so happy.
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Thank you very much @faithhopegod
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I am not asking about whether/not to marry. My question is about the decline in antibody titer value.

Please respond to that!.

For those of you who are only interested in insulting me, please remember that this is my thread. Show some respect. Your insults have no value and only clogs up this place.

********And just so you know, we are getting married June 11th.*******

Thank you all!
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There is no way to compare HBV with HCV & HIV as there is no vaccination to both HCV & HIV though the good thing there is a cure for HCV now.
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Just telling the OP, that he will be getting a biased answer on this forum.
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It's your choice.  since you are asking people infected with chronic hbv a question like that, do u really anybody is going to say no.  If you go to a HIV forum and ask the same question, but marrying an hiv infected person, what do you think that forum will say.  You need to ask your friends and family member if you are so confused.  Do you, because it's your life.  Best wishes to you and your wife if you do marry her, and if not, you are not a horrible person.
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Lol..I don't understand how HBV stops you to get marry that girl. U get vaccinated and marry her.
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Thank you Nasim65
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Thanks a lot. I took you advice and went for vaccination.

After the three doses, and the recommended period I tested for antibodies (Hbsab)  and the result stated >822 mIU/ml. The test was in April 2015.

This month (May 2016, a year later) I did another test and the titre was 649 mIU/ml.

What is the impact of a decreasing antibody level? Also, at what level should I consider myself unprotected? What should I do at that point?

Thank you.



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It is not uncommon for hepatitis B surface antibodies to decline over time after vaccination. Even though our antibodies may fall below 10 mIU/mL, doctors believe our immune systems are still able to fight infection. Because you test negative for the hepatitis B surface antigen, you should be fine
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c'mon guys... hbv is manegable, we now have nucs that can be used longlife... you can get your family vaccinated adn 100% safed..

Remember: we are lucky to know we have hbv as it has no symptoms and could be discovered only after many years for liver faliure.. so as long as we know we have it we take care of us, we keep monitoring and acting when needed...

then consider than if adults are infected they clear the infections in 94/95% of the cases..
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I am in your shoes. My husband stayed with me and I too believe my husband deserves someone that's not sick to be with him :).  In the back of my mind, I still am afraid to get my husband and my baby sick even though they are vaccinated.
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9624973 tn?1413016130
just so you know, i am in the same situation myself, but instead of her, i find out that i am infected, on the last blood tests i've done. We also are engaged, she didn't even care of this and supports me 100%. i had some doubts if i      should continue this because i didn't thought she deserved someone sick next to her, and i hope that i will get cure so she wont have to worry for a sec.. i don't deserve her !
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love is another thing, i dont think you are really in love you should think about this not hbv and not the wedding....but if you never loved you ll never know what it is about
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I do fully agree with flyinsky.
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You're welcome. I am sure it's not easy for you too as you just found out your fiancee has hep b.

Good luck to the both of you.  
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Dear all, I like to point out that we are still courting, we are not married yet and i am not abandoning a mate. I see some are getting emotional about this. Please dont take it personal. I only need comments and personal experiences like that of ccchuiccc. Remember it is my life, it will be my choice as to whether to continue or not.
All I need is practical assistance to help me make a good decision.
Thanks
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I totally agree! She has to have concerns about staying with you!
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Thanks all! I appreciate the encouraging comments. I am not angry with those who have made negative remarks.
Thanks again...I am overwhelmed by the number of responses!
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You are in a wrong way. You should help her if you love her. She can get fit of HBV with your support (I am totally cured with my wife's support).

See my results: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Hepatitis-B/My-All-Test-Result-After-12-Months-Treatment-of-Entecavir-I-am-cured/show/2355051

See my story: http://www.medhelp.org/posts/Hepatitis-B/Urgent-Advise-for-Entecavir-Usage/show/2044528
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9624973 tn?1413016130
i belive you dont deserve her anyway, can't belive my eyes, she finds out that she has hepatitis and you ask a bunch of people you dont even know if its best to cancel the wedding. Did you think that could be you in her place ?
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I think you are shocked now.take a time to take decision.i am heb b carrier married with two safed babies .my husband loved me lot and never think to leave me because of this. he is immunized so he don't care at all.what are you afraid of?you have your vaccine so you will develop anti bodies.your kids will. Be safe as mention by others just your wife should be fellows by doc during her pregnancy.marriage is sharing sadness and happiness not just sharing good thinks and supposing she does t have this desase and after marriage she develop an other desease so you leave her?.ask your self if its you who is infected will she leave you?I suppose she doesn't know that she is infected?imagine in wich situation is she and you think to leave her!sorry for my words but if you really loves her don't think like that and don't take decisions you regrets after.take your time
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I agree absolutely worth your sentiment. What ever happens to "for better or worse...in sickness and in health"?
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Thanks a lot. I really appreciate your prompt comment. It is also encouraging. I will continue the vaccination program and check for immunity afterwards.

Thanks again
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7946635 tn?1403618079
If u love her u will stand by her no matter what,what if it was you in her place?how would you want her to treat you?
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Also, please note I am not a doctor, your doctor may be a better person to address some of your concerns.
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