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husbands losing faith
my husband was told recently that he has hep c, he is so down on himself... depressed and I'm not sure of what to do . He wont go to the dr. and I cant make him. He needs a good word to help pick him up... He's 52 years old, was/ is bi, and had lots of unprotected sex. So he thinks that it's his fault.... trying to let him know i care , he just seems like he's dying inside... whats worse is the mental confusion that comes along with this and the liver problems. Help me help him! I love him, but no words I give are worth saying, I don't know what he's going through. thanks
Hi there! I feel your pain. My husband was diagnosed over 10 years ago and is just now going through treatment. He tried to pretend like he didn't have hepatitis C and I couldn't even get him to talk to me about it. Ultimately, if your husband is unwilling to accept his condition and won't discuss it with you or see a doctor, you're going to have to try to be patient and wait.
The only thing you can really do is tell him how much it upsets you that you love him so much and you feel like he's just giving up and it's not fair to either one of you.
Good luck to you - I'm sorry that you're both going through this.
Please keep us posted - thanks!
The only thing you can really do is tell him how much it upsets you that you love him so much and you feel like he's just giving up and it's not fair to either one of you.
Good luck to you - I'm sorry that you're both going through this.
Please keep us posted - thanks!
How long has he had this?, Has he had a biopsy?, These are crucial questions, I'm 52 as well and I've had Hep C for 30 years!, My biopsies are great with very minimal fibrosis, My doctor said I can wait for better treatment options in the near future, Your husband could be worrying for nothing!
I just wanted to make you aware of the fact that if a person is co-infected with both HIV and Hep C, then the damage may occur alot quicker, so since you mentioned he practiced unprotected sex, it is always a good idea to have an HIV test, as well as getting him vaccinated for both Hep A and Hep B.
If heis havingmental confusion, he may really be in trouble, health-wise, and it would be a good idea for him to Treat, asap.
I am 51 yrs old, and Treated last year, and obtained cure, and had a very positive experience with it. If he doesn't want to talk about it on the public forum, he can feel free to talk to me thru the private message they have here.
Let him know how many of us on here have been cured, this may spark his interest. I have noticed that amny people go thru phases after they find out they have Hep C. At first, we go thru denial, often times, and the idea of being treated, is still in our subconcious, and we are in the precontemplative stage. At a certain point, we can think about it, and talk about it, but we arent ready to spring into action. Then, at a certain point, we are ready to take action, perhaps because we become very frightened, by a friend with Hep C dying suddenly,or the discomfort of our symptoms outweigh our denial system.
Perhaps you could print out some of the latest info on Hep C cure advances, and leave it around, for him to read. That's what my husband did with me. At first I didn't want to read the info. I only tried to get into a Clinical Trial, becuz I needed the $$ they offered. But once I became conciously aware that my health was in danger, then I did become ready to go into treatment. And keep in mind, I found out I had it when Iwas 30 yrs, and Treated when I was 49 yrs. Unfortunately, many people find out they have it, and then have to go into Treatment very quickly, without being able to contemplate it first.
If heis havingmental confusion, he may really be in trouble, health-wise, and it would be a good idea for him to Treat, asap.
I am 51 yrs old, and Treated last year, and obtained cure, and had a very positive experience with it. If he doesn't want to talk about it on the public forum, he can feel free to talk to me thru the private message they have here.
Let him know how many of us on here have been cured, this may spark his interest. I have noticed that amny people go thru phases after they find out they have Hep C. At first, we go thru denial, often times, and the idea of being treated, is still in our subconcious, and we are in the precontemplative stage. At a certain point, we can think about it, and talk about it, but we arent ready to spring into action. Then, at a certain point, we are ready to take action, perhaps because we become very frightened, by a friend with Hep C dying suddenly,or the discomfort of our symptoms outweigh our denial system.
Perhaps you could print out some of the latest info on Hep C cure advances, and leave it around, for him to read. That's what my husband did with me. At first I didn't want to read the info. I only tried to get into a Clinical Trial, becuz I needed the $$ they offered. But once I became conciously aware that my health was in danger, then I did become ready to go into treatment. And keep in mind, I found out I had it when Iwas 30 yrs, and Treated when I was 49 yrs. Unfortunately, many people find out they have it, and then have to go into Treatment very quickly, without being able to contemplate it first.
Hello there, I can feel your pain. I understand how your husband feels, when I was dx I thought it was a death sentence. I could not talk about it for 3 months without breaking down in tears.
This forum helped me very much, people here were so supportive, they helped me see that this was no a death sentence and that I could do a tx to help myself.
I finished tx 18 months ago, I am no cured. I am 57, I have been fighting this for 6 years
Your husband is young, I am sure he has things he wants to live for.
He should not feel as if he did this to himself, it is very rare to get HCV through sex, there are many many married members on here who's spouse's do not have HCV.
Maybe you could convince him to join, in time, to do research, educate himself on his options.
There are new drugs coming out soon for treatment naive patients that don't include interferon.
What geno type is your husband? Has he had a biopsy yet? That could help him decide if he can wait to tx or if he needs to tx right away.
Please keep in touch, there are many people on here in the same boat, plenty of room for you and your husband.
There are other spouse's on here who help each other as well.
My best to you, hang in there, it does get easier as your brain wraps around the news.
Dee
This forum helped me very much, people here were so supportive, they helped me see that this was no a death sentence and that I could do a tx to help myself.
I finished tx 18 months ago, I am no cured. I am 57, I have been fighting this for 6 years
Your husband is young, I am sure he has things he wants to live for.
He should not feel as if he did this to himself, it is very rare to get HCV through sex, there are many many married members on here who's spouse's do not have HCV.
Maybe you could convince him to join, in time, to do research, educate himself on his options.
There are new drugs coming out soon for treatment naive patients that don't include interferon.
What geno type is your husband? Has he had a biopsy yet? That could help him decide if he can wait to tx or if he needs to tx right away.
Please keep in touch, there are many people on here in the same boat, plenty of room for you and your husband.
There are other spouse's on here who help each other as well.
My best to you, hang in there, it does get easier as your brain wraps around the news.
Dee
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